懊恼了一阵子，短短的劳动节假期给予我歇息的机会。
孑然平静的几天，让我重新找回自己。
有几次，在社交活动普通交谈中，对于许许多多的人和事，往往我有一股冲动，想大声说，“外边的花花世界大得很呢！”
但我没有那么做。别人的世界不是我能理解的。别人怎么想，我左右不了。我没有理由打岔，也无权争辩。我的生活圈子也全然不同- 更无需解释，也无需为自己的生活选择做任何辩护。口味迥然不同也是人生的无可厚非。
我认为，女人三十是有权选择在自己手上带多大克拉的钻戒。 这概念的关键不在于‘比较’，而是在于‘选择’。
为同样的理论，女人三十是有权独爱威士忌酒的。 呵呵。
人的可憎可厌可贺可爱都置于你我的不同。
我应该拥有更大的矜持。 一定要提醒自己∶保持沉默。 我若能时时刻刻做到这一点，也算掠懂“若爱恶之念已泯，即不受分段之身” 宗旨了。
我想，这就是与人相处之道吧。
did you write this entire passage yourself? oh my. i think u r gifted in languages! cos if i remember correctly, u know thai too? wow! :)
ReplyDeleteD
D: you're too kind. i'm better at languages coz all my maths and sciences kena F9!! heehee. yup. if i had a proper thai keyboard, i'd be typing out posts in thai. especially if i sort of want it secret. ah!
ReplyDeleteshucks the chinese function in my home comp is not working!
ReplyDelete“外边的花花世界大得很呢！”You wrote my feelings. Couldn't have done it better. I won't be able to 保持沉默! But neither will I 打岔 nor 争辩. A trusted few will bound to know my views.
I wanted to reply to this in chinese but my hubs reformatted my lappie in the weekend and i lost my chinese software!! Aiyaaaah!
ReplyDeleteIt was quite challenging reading this, heheheh... very rusty my Chinese.. but I got the gist of it. Do not impose your values unto others. To each and his/her own - THAT's the way to get along with each other, I agree. (Though my immediate impulse most often, is to voice out what I feel/think too!) :)
alamak. my cheena cannot make it lah. why you write so cheem??! my online translator also can't understand! i need a human!
ReplyDeletevery long story. but in a nutshell, must learn to bite your tongue right?! i not bad hor?!
ReplyDeleteone word: wow.
ReplyDeleteu go girl..i love ure writings. even in chinese :)
my bf would love u ( literally) if u wrote in thai! Hahah
wooooo u do cina too?!
ReplyDeletei reckon it would take me few hours to complete that lolz
hmmm ... some how this post reminds me of the theme song from 笑傲江湖 that 黃霑 wrote :)
修身？不是修心？
ReplyDelete你真還幽默呢:)
corsage: :)))
ReplyDeletejomel: clever already lor!! where got rusty!
jazzgal: dun bluff. u can read it perfectly fine.
meteor: yah lor.
nuttyjas: arrgh! that means he can read ah?? then cannot write men-bashing posts in thai. ;P
findingmrlazy: of course lor. kena 12 years of education in cina. sure must be able to write it somehow. i wrote a similar post in english. but it's too forthright and painful. too many strange people read this sometimes. it'll be 写者无心，读者有意。then die. so i decided to write in another subtle language.
kikare: 又推拿，做脸，潜水嘛。当然是'修身'咯。不用'修心'啦。嘻嘻。
好有墨水。真佩服。
ReplyDelete我很同意你所说的“选择”。我们的生活方式不应该由社会指定。
（我能以华语留言，想必我也不赖？）
i wanted to reply in chinese but too bad i cant in office. But anyway, it was well written! Thumbs up! Sometimes i guess..we really are the one to decide what we want for life, so what if we are different but that is what we want!~ =p N OMG, u know Thai too?? are u genius? =p
ReplyDelete所谓“非礼勿言”正是如此吧 - 除待人处世之道，或许也反映了个人教养。当然，我认为这也和亚洲文化多少有关联。
ReplyDeletelms: 但还是多多少少会受影响的。唉。（你当然一点也不赖！棒的很呢！）
ReplyDeleteelaine: of course! we decide what we want always coz we are the ones living the lives ultimately. not anyone else. :)
b.muse: 的确如此。也许我们的社会根本就是真的这样吧。这亚洲文化，把人压得喘不过气。
aiyoh, shy leh. bmuse's comments totally "chie-d" mine lor!
ReplyDelete想必我就是你指的那些strange people之一吧. 是忠实读者, 但又极少现身留言. 哈哈!
ReplyDelete在某些程度与观点上, 我觉得我们俩有些相似, 算是同类吧.
很多时候, 对于周遭某些人,某些朋友对人对事的看法及态度, 我也好想大声呐喊: ，“外边的花花世界大得很呢, 你们的想法太狭隘了!” 但每回都欲言又止.
如您所说的, 别人的人生, 想法, 我无权过问, 也管不了.
与其坚持己见, 伤了和气, 不如保持沉默, 以微笑带过.
CDR :)
lms: 好久没有听到这个字'chie'd'了！ so fuN!
ReplyDeleteCDR: 你绝对不是那strange people啦！也就是所谓的成长吧。奇怪的是，我到现在才真正领悟这沉默的价值。