Wednesday, October 21, 2026

Paper-Wrapped Chicken


Our dear friends had us over for chicken rice, a chat and some wine. It was again, a much appreciated gesture because it provided respite from the haze and scorching heat (yes, even in the nights).

The friends picked up food from Boon Tong Kee at Balestier. This outlet somehow has claypot chicken rice in the nights, but it's off the menu and in limited portions. You'd have to ask for it. However, the chef was on leave that day, and there was no claypot rice available. So they got the paper-wrapped chicken (紙包雞) instead. Still very tasty! I was really tickled that it came individually wrapped. 

There was the usual portion of steamed chicken. The friends ordered well. There was more than enough food and variety for all of us. The deep fried prawn toast was yummy — since I took antihistamines, I had one piece. We had poached Chinese spinach with assorted eggs too. That's always a lovely accompaniment to the meats. 

The friends always generously host us in their home; we drink loads of their wines! Tonight, they even picked up the food from Balestier in the pouring rain! At least let us get dinner or split the food bill! So they did. Ooof.

Tuesday, October 20, 2026

Seventeenth


It was our seventeenth wedding anniversary. I seriously forgot about it until the husband remembered it. But he remembered it a day earlier. LOLOL You know I'm not bothered about marking these dates. I didn't plan a special day or something. In many instances, I prefer to mark special occasions with doing the mundane.

There was this depressing haze and all, and the year-end gloom creeping in. We're both stepping into our fifties. It's a sombre phrase of life. I'm not particularly sure how to live it. As I always have? Or I'm supposed to do something else.... These would be deep thoughts for another day. 

Then there was bad news all around — of illness, divorces, separations, unwelcomed milestone changes, accidents, losses, deaths, and more bad stuff, and more pain. It's not a happy quarter for many for us. We don't know what 2027 would bring and it doesn't feel hopeful. This Year of the Fire Horse is truly rocky for our circle.

The one bright lining — the haze lifted on 18 October. PM2.5 went down to 39, which was a normal sort of reading. Wow! We could all breathe in peace. We headed out for brekkies and a natter with the friends. The floofs were all happy to linger outdoors for a bit. Choya had a little sprint across the field, and entertained herself thoroughly. I let her. She wore a huge grin all day and snoozed deeply in the afternoon. This girl deserves all the fun. She's an absolute darling.

We kinda marked the wedding anniversary a day later at the gym, by lifting heavy (I hit all PBs for back squats and deadlifts.) and remaining injury-free. The husband has a very tender and knotted rotator cuff that is being treated at the TCM clinic. He really shouldn't be aggravating it at the first sign of less pain and mobility.

Health is wealth? Oh absolutely. It has nothing to do with vanity. It has everything to do with independence and feeling at peace. At this point, the one thing I do know as we move into our last few decades on earth, is to keep strong, move nimbly and be as sharp as we possibly could.

Monday, October 19, 2026

All the Laws & Rules


I had to read this. It's nice to see a Singaporean voice in this journal. It's an author I like, and this story is set in Singapore about our strict laws. Well... This is 'A Very Safe Place' by Rachel Heng, published in The New Yorker on October 4, 2026.

Told in the voice and perspective of nine-year-old Shawn, it's not quite a story with a happy ending. Shawn and his father Chee Meng found a shirtless man on the beach in the easternmost part of Singapore, and took him home. He seemed to have swum to Singapore in search of a better life. He wasn't caught by the coast guard. He is in the country now, living in Chee Meng's home for two weeks and counting. This man is an illegal immigrant.

I was already like, errmmm.... are we really going there? This touches on our policy of not accepting refugees of any sort and we're not a party to the 1951 Refugee Convention or its 1967 Protocol.

The man recovered from his ordeal of getting to Singapore. But he didn't know our laws. He had no passport, no permit, no sponsor, nothing. He went out looking for a job just like that, at a provision shop downstairs Chee Meng's home. I don't know how naive immigrants are today, but this is one sure-fire way to get caught. For a nine-year-old, the author has painted Shawn to be really mature for his age. 

Shawn’s nerves were jangling. What was the stranger trying to do? Had the family taken him in out of the goodness of their hearts, only for him to go out in the world and expose them like that? And no one would hire him this way. Why, even if they wanted to, he would need a work permit—that was how things were in this orderly land. Shawn knew that the man didn’t even have a passport on him, had heard his parents questioning him repeatedly about this to no avail. Confusingly, Shawn found himself now worrying about the stranger, feeling sorry about the futility of the man’s quest. The shopkeeper’s brusque response would no doubt be repeated over and over again. In some obscure way, Shawn felt responsible for protecting the stranger against the slights of his unyielding countrymen.

Shawn's mother didn't want this man in her home. Yet Chee Meng, for a grown adult man, seemed to be really dumb. He's putting himself and his entire family at risk for an illegal immigrant. I'm not sure that he could see the whole picture of having to also support this man his entire life, and not even thinking how medical bills might go. It's so weird. The family dynamics changed, they became more secretive, and it affected Shawn loads in terms of him worrying about the police and the legal repercussions of harboring an illegal immigrant. 

So the story ended in the only way it could — Chee Meng making the decision to leave the stranger on the beach they found him at, and pretending this episode didn't happen. 

What he would not see: three small figures standing on a deserted beach on the lip of all that light. He would not see Chee Meng shove the stranger toward the water; he would not see Shawn take one step forward and then one back; he would not see the stranger standing alone and mournful on the sand, watching father and son disappear into the trees, get into their car, and begin the long drive back to the safety of their silent home.

The story flagged out all police signs, helpful reminders, and for people to report suspicious activities and crimes everywhere. The state wants people to live an ordered life within the laws without any sort of deviation even in the smallest manner. Is it oppressive? The feeling of having done something illegal? 

It's not quite a standard story about immigrants in Singapore, but it's a common story. People somehow still try to swim here because they have no idea how small the country is, and how difficult it is to stay here without papers. Residents here can't technically help an illegal immigrant even on humane grounds. They definitely can't hire them. It's a huge risk for any business. 

Our underbelly of society is too thin and not enough to offer illegal stayers any sort cover for an extended period of time. Although we do have many instances of over-stayers, who have surprisingly found some way to make a living and survive in Singapore for say, 20 years or so without being caught. It's certainly painting the state in a most pragmatic light. 

In this story, there's a lot of Singlish used, in the names of the people, and even 'rotan'. I'm not sure whether people get it, but it's out there for everyone to read and have their own takeaways from this story. 

In an interview with Deborah Treisman at the journal, the author is asked if the strict laws matter much in this story. 

A lot of the drama of the story revolves around Singapore’s strict laws. If the stranger is discovered, he faces imprisonment and caning. So perhaps do those who have harbored him. The government and society argue that these laws are what keep Singaporeans safe, yet they are also what make it a dangerous place for people like the stranger. Does this contradiction make Singapore a particularly rich setting for fiction?

I think every society makes choices about what trade-offs it is willing to make—whose liberties and whose safety are prioritized. Perhaps some Singaporeans have been steeped in these choices for so long that those trade-offs have become invisible or are no longer questioned. That is as true here in the U.S. as it is in Singapore.

Singapore is a particularly rich setting for fiction, I think, because of the many ways in which it is seen as a kind of success story by the rest of the world, and because so many aspects of Singaporean society—safety being just one of them—are held up as something to emulate. I’m not here to say whether the country is or isn’t a success. As a fiction writer, I’m more interested in the human calculus of those decisions and trade-offs, what they mean for the individuals caught up in them.