Tuesday, November 03, 2026

Steak & Pumpkin Pies!

The dear friends had us over for dinner and drinks. It's very much nicer to chill out at home for the evening. When we turn up at 6.30pm and the night ends at 10.30pm, that's really lovely. We never stay beyond that because everyone's got an early start the next day, and our hosts would need to clean up. That takes time. I don't want them to have sleep later than necessary.

It wasn't meant to be a Halloween thing. It just so happened that we could all make it that weekend. We did say that we weren't dressing up. It was hilarious because they had touches of Halloween decor, and added a wee bit with accessories with their very normal clothes. Hehehehe. No ghoulish make-up lah. They didn't go OTT. When we don't live in a city that marks it, or an estate that goes gaga over it, we needn't be obligated. And I'm honestly not very fond of crowds to have them around for Halloween. Luckily I don't live in a house/estate that would be subjected to a weird-ass committee's demands (the terrifying HOA style) for holiday decor.


N bought the right size of a lovely ribeye. She had wanted a tomahawk; luckily it was out of stock! Nooooo. This was the ideal size for a steak. N wasn't having the steak, and she had a baked fillet of codfish. That beautifully-roasted slab was done medium-rare. IT WAS PERFECT. It sliced up and shared; all was eaten. Nothing was wasted. There were three chunks of rock salt to accompany the mains Wheeeeee. My biggest weakness is sodium. I grated them into sprinkles over the steak. Gorgeous.

She went big on the sides too — broccolini, Brussels sprouts and an avocado tomato salad. We finished the Brussels sprouts and broccolini that were still crunchy and delicious. We simply couldn't squeeze in the avocado tomato salad except for a few spoonfuls. Luckily that salad could be kept for the next day.

We brought dessert from Pantler, but it was intended for our friends to have it the next day rather than inhale it in a night. Heheheh. So they kept that since they also offered pumpkin pie from Culina! It was surprisingly not overly cloying and didn't hold the spices that I'm not very fond of. (I no like 'pumpkin spiced' anything.) Culina at Dempsey doesn't offer this pie all year round, and it's certainly not very advertised. But it hops out during Halloween. N went big and got us a slice each! She didn't want anyone to share. Hahahahaha. Alrighty. I ate one all by myself too. That was a superb pumpkin pie. 

Monday, November 02, 2026

When We're Older, We Feel Each Loss


Grinned when I saw the aging biker gang's name as 'Sons of Arthritis' in 'Chuck Murphy's Last Run' by Kevin Barry, published in The New Yorker on October 11, 2026.

Six aging Irish bikers (66-74 years old) rode their Harleys toward the beach at Strandhill on the coast of Sligo to fulfil a friend's final wishes. They're riding out to scatter the ashes of their late compatriot, Chuck 'Boyo' Murphy. They used to be seven in a group — Rog Dockery, Tall Paul, Ned the Impaler, Barney, Tony M, the narrator Stephen, and the recently-deceased Chuck. It wouldn't be too long a trip since it's a small island and the coastline isn't that... ... long. It would be an easy three to four-hour ride. 

I really couldn't stop laughing at their tees. Well, it isn't unique in the sense that printing companies offer those slogans and you could customize it to your own tee designs and such. This group's tees read, 'Sons of Arthritis / Ibuprofen Chapter'. Their outings are now infrequent, and they don't quite muck around like they used to decades ago. The narrator thought that everyone was more gentle with one another now. 

Yes, wry old men on hogs were we, with scarred hearts and woejus hips, but we had never lost our sense of fun or of peacockery.

The bikers remembered Chuck at every passing mile and landmark. Along the way, they bantered, they deal with the physical aches, got a bun and coffee break, had a brief, slightly absurd run-in with local surfers at the beach. Then they got to the beach at Strandhill and did what they set out to do. They felt the loss keenly, in their own different ways.

The author said that his story is "primarily concerned with fraternity, in the original sense of brotherhood, and how important it can be in getting men through the hard times." He said that men should talk more about fraternity. In that sense, yes. Men are always portrayed as the one stoic gender not giving to tears and overt displays of emotion. 

Regardless of gender, friendship is indeed important in helping us navigate the vicissitudes of life.

We turned our snouts seaward, saw the long, billowing green ribs of the Atlantic from a rise above Collooney, and I could feel the hot gushes of emotion surging through the pack. Tall Paul, I knew for sure, had a touchy-feely side to him and he was inclined, certainly when deep in his cups, to lean in bravely and start talking about meaning and purpose in life and stoutheartedness, and how important it was that we maintain the sense of community we had built together over the slow, painful decades, and how important it was that we all loved one another, at which point I would tend to retreat back into my beard and blush ferociously.

Of course, he was not wrong about the pain—as a group we had been through the usual vile plethora of sicknesses and losses, broken hearts and occasional incarcerations, addictions coming out the wazoo, screaming, locked-ward breakdowns, you name it. We had really been through a great deal but still we rode on, with our engines growling at the sodden farmland and the exurban sprawl.

They had booked rooms for the night at a hostel with bunk beds, like old times. Before bedtime, they adjourned for supper at the bustling dining scene in the area. They mentioned about the excellent small plates scene in Strandhill, said that they hit three gastropubs, and put away loads of small plates by the dozens.

Fuelled by good vibes and all, the narrator casually suggested a mid-winter / mid-January run to Spain for its food and sights. But nobody indicated a real commitment to do so. Later in the night, when Tony M (he's 74 years old and rides a ’87 stone-gray Harley Electra Glide) casually brought up selling his motorcycle, the rest instinctively shut the idea down.

The others poked politely enough at the idea but I noted that they would make no commitments to it. Silently I scolded myself—I’d forgotten that even raising the possibility of a major run these days can send most of the boys to their morose places, can remind them of all that might get in the way of such an outing. It’s become much harder to make any mid- to long-range plans, what with the many appointments that choke a more senior man’s schedule, the physical and mental therapies, the endless scans and random probes, not to mention the late-onset agoraphobia that is not unknown to gentlemen of a certain age who’ve travelled more than their fair stretch of rough road. And of course developing a fear of the outdoors is never ideal in the hog-riding-outlaw kind.

I have so much to say about making long-term commitments. It's a hard thing to do nowadays, and harder as we get older. Responsibilities and obligations get in the way, then fear. Even I. The husband and I don't want to travel together anymore because the dog would be left alone. Flight delays notwithstanding, we fear accidents and making it home to the dog. I hesitate to take trips on my own even though I could. This story hit me deep in so many ways. 

Now that the gang is together, they enjoy one another's company. However, we don't know if this is one of the very last hangouts. Imagine doing this rides each time one of them dies. That's reality and it's depressing. What the narrator Stephen said, really really hits home. At the end of it all, we will be affected by loneliness. 

I had dreamed all night of riding alone through strange country and unknown places, had dreamed of nameless valleys and broad mysterious fields, of sombre mountain roads, all of it sweeping past me in a blur, as this life sweeps past, and streaks of pale gold reached out across the ripening fields. These dreams, I felt, had the certain weight of a foretelling—they told me of the lonelier roads to come.

In happier thoughts to end this little story, we talk about food. I almost wished that the story talked a little more about food. In an interview with Cressida Leyshon at the journal, it's too cute that the author is asked about the food in Ireland. Well, the small plates scene in Strandhill is truly a big deal. Say, Stoked, The Dunes and Honestly. It's gaining traction for its flavors and focus on healthy portions.  

Chuck’s ashes are not so much scattered as taken by the wind. Afterward, the men make the most of Strandhill’s small-plates scene. Did you want to subvert expectations by way of the food they eat? Or is it a given that, in the Ireland of 2026, small plates are going to be in the picture?

Given that we’re a people traditionally reared on buckets of potatoes and lumps of boiled ham the size of your father’s head, the transition to a most delicate and refined small-plates scene has really been something to see. There’s been an incredible improvement in the Irish seaside-dining experience over the last twenty years or so, and the best of it now is as innovative and edgy as you’ll get in Denmark, and priced accordingly. You honestly can’t throw a Frisbee on an Irish beach these days without it passing over at least a couple of small-plates joints.

Friday, October 30, 2026

A Very Happy Meal

We have friends who were on a work trip in Bangkok. We couldn't go up to meet them, so they flew down to meet us! It wasn't just an extension of the trip that took up more of their time. It was a big detour in that sense. We were so thankful that they did this. We hadn't seen each other for years. We've missed them. It was a good three days hanging out. Before they flew home, we had one final dinner together. Instead of heading out, we stayed in. 

I wasn't going to cook! LOL. A takeout from Cicheti would do nicely. Ordered from the restaurant via Oddle and the Kandahar Street outlet delivered the food punctually. We had no gravy things that could spill, and the boxes were pristine and food was kept warm. We took the food out to plate them and also to separate the pasta into individual portions.  

There were two pizzas — a Romana and a Diavola, pasta of a portion of tonnarelli nero and two portions of cacio e pepe (one was totally for ME; not sharing), loads of sides of calamari, lamb and beef meatballs, grilled prawns, and roasted pumpkin with miso nuts and herbs. We ordered well — the volume of food was sufficient — everyone was full and there were no leftovers. 

From our socials, it's clear that all of us don't travel as often because of our dogs. They hadn't done a trip together for two years. Hurhurhurhur. We totally get it. They wanted to bring something for Choya, but they know about her sensitive gut and my preference not to spend money on toys. They came with nothing but well wishes. I really really appreciated that. Choya was on her best charming behavior. They wanted to take her home. Ahahahah. She would enjoy the lovely woods and temperatures in the PNW. 

We met as thirty-somethings, kept in touch, had so much fun meeting up in different cities. Now in our early fifties, we're still aligned on fundamental values. Conversation was fabulous. We're glad that everyone's okay, healthwise. Honestly, we're fairly fit. We spent time together at the gym too. Had to! It was great! This time together would go down as such a precious memory.