Sunday, October 15, 2006

Moving In

As I put the week's laundry into the washing bags for its mundane spin in the machine, a memory rose. When I began staying over at the man's, I didn't even consider all those moving-in-together issues, hurdles and whatnots. Heck, if we couldn't stomach living together, then we might as well not be in a committed relationship.

We never really discussed about the issue of living together. We never even broached the topic with the parents. And by all accounts, that was the dicey part. As I slowly accumulated my stuff in the man's room, perceived hurdles simply dissolved. The parents welcomed me warmly. I don't just live in his room. I actually live in the house.

The man's mom babied me outrageously. But once a week, I still lugged my laundry back to my pad or to the laundromat. One day she said, "You don't have to run around with all these clothes. You could do your laundry here, dear."

I giggled awkwardly. Then I heaved a huge sigh of relief. We've all heard those old wives' tales and horror stories of washing clothes and underwear separately or risk being jinxed, bad luck, the sorts. I'm so not into that.

His mom's a lovely woman of today, stylish and poised. But I wasn't going to take a gamble that she shared my beliefs. Neither was I willing to ask her directly "Aunty, can I wash my clothes here?" It would sound ridiculously uncultured!! But, yeah, even with that overt permission, it took quite a while before my laundry moved in.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

oh. laundry. fine line to tread. i don't even dare to use the machine. scared i'd spoil it...etc etc...

domestic rat said...

It's awkward. I wash my clothes separately too.

Jo said...

Man's mom is indeed a lovely woman. I am happy for you.

Anonymous said...

scary sometimes to negotiate the finer points of living together. not all a bed of roses. being a family is lucky AND hard.

Anonymous said...

It is lovely to read about the wonderful relationship you have with the family :) Can tell you are very special!

Anonymous said...

it's diificult enough to live with a partner/a spouse. what more with a whole family. laundry is just the tip of the ice-berg to all boogeyman in the cupboard tales.

Anonymous said...

fern + dr: oh yes.

lil joy: she is. i'm thanking my lucky stars.

shaye: you don't say.

corsage: thanks girl. :) i'm just me.

andrew: u should share boogeyman tales!

Anonymous said...

Hey, I second lil' joy abt your man's mom. And me think you've great EQ too, being sensitive abt li' things like that...

Anonymous said...

sesame: thanks! i'm just very mindful that it's not my house, it's hers. so i make sure i respect that totally.

Anonymous said...

Your man's mum sounds like a really lovely person. Me thinks you're v lucky.

Little Miss Snooze said...

your man's mum sounds really welcoming :) Thats wonderful.

kachunknorge said...

She's a breath of fresh air!