Us

This trip has created much needed us-time for the man and I. It's been simply marvellous. 

Daily, we don't often text each other via cell or msn. Neither do we declare that we have to email each other lovey-dovey messages. Of late, both our work, hobbies and charity commitments have kept us apart till late evening. We haven't had much time to chat. We try to make time for dinner thrice a week. Or grab a quick one and get back to whatever appointments we have.

But I kinda like that too. We don't do it business-like of course. Our relationship is almost like how we treasure our friends. We have this very cherished and loyal circle of FaerieFolk. We know who we can count on in spite of distance and separate lives. Acutely aware of the difference between saying "I love you" and "I'm in love with you". To be in love, is the reason why we are in a relationship at all.

This trip affirmed that we are in love. Still. We have trust, affection and fondness. We have lust and intimacy. Then, we have indulgence and faith. All my past relationships have been conducted solely on my terms. It's like, all or nothing. That probably kept me in very good stead through rough times. But this one, is different. I meet him midway. There isn't a terrible compromise to speak of. It's more like, ooh, you're kinda cool, I shall be considerate to you. When I start thinking more about him and slightly less about myself, I guess this is special.

This man is my intellectual equal. More, actually. Thank god he doesn't want a doormat for a partner. He's talented in many ways I am not. He is not jaded. He has not lost that passion for life or that deep belief in his chosen hobbies. I'm pleasantly surprised that while our ways and methods of handling issues are vastly different, our fundamental values don't deviate too far. We partner each other as equals. There is no suffocating demand to change ourselves to suit the other. We come into the relationship as we are.

We don't know if we'll still be together as things shift and individuals mature. But we like where we are now. It's been almost 4 years. We'll certainly work at keeping the flame going in the same direction.