Wow. Here it is, this is the man and I's tenth year of marriage. Never mind the marriage, that term itself isn't binding. It's the relationship that we should focus on. We've quietly walked this path in life together for so long. I honestly never expected to stay in a relationship for this long. We have been in a committed relationship for 14 years! We hit that tenth year relationship mark in 2014, and we have now come to the marriage's tenth year.
The man and I have subtly changed since we got together, swopped jobs, rode through health hiccups, and solidified who we are as individuals in this life. Trundling along the passing years together provided both counsel and companionship. There is love. The nature of love has changed; mutual respect has only grown. The early years provided the groundwork to pave the way to an older love that's secure in its current state, giving us a peace of mind. As we grow older, we become less fearless. We have more to lose to mortality, yet we hold faith that we've done the best we can for ourselves, and done right by each other. Now, we just have to do right by the dog.
I had earlier written this on facebook, just for fun because it's the tenth year of marriage, and I hadn't bothered much with updating anything on that platform:
We said we would not bother with any major celebrations, no matter how private. I didn't get the man any gift. He bought me flowers. Luckily he was rather clever and chose to get it from Tiong Bahru Market. I laughed when he walked through the door with a huge bouquet. It would be the first bouquet that he bought me! I honestly that it was very sweet but totally unnecessary.
The man and I have subtly changed since we got together, swopped jobs, rode through health hiccups, and solidified who we are as individuals in this life. Trundling along the passing years together provided both counsel and companionship. There is love. The nature of love has changed; mutual respect has only grown. The early years provided the groundwork to pave the way to an older love that's secure in its current state, giving us a peace of mind. As we grow older, we become less fearless. We have more to lose to mortality, yet we hold faith that we've done the best we can for ourselves, and done right by each other. Now, we just have to do right by the dog.
I had earlier written this on facebook, just for fun because it's the tenth year of marriage, and I hadn't bothered much with updating anything on that platform:
You're a soulmate. You're not my best friend. You're not my better half. We're not halves, dammit. We're individuals. You're my partner, my equal, and rather occasionally, I'll give you that- my intellectual superior. You've made 10 years of marriage feel effortless. 🖤
It only took me 10 years to convince you that worn clothes and wet towels belong in the laundry basket and not on the floor 10cm outside of it. It only took you 10 years to realize that I make a kickass sambal matah and sambal terasi, and takikomi gohan.
We said we would not bother with any major celebrations, no matter how private. I didn't get the man any gift. He bought me flowers. Luckily he was rather clever and chose to get it from Tiong Bahru Market. I laughed when he walked through the door with a huge bouquet. It would be the first bouquet that he bought me! I honestly that it was very sweet but totally unnecessary.
4 comments:
;) blessed marriage! For someone who have been following you since way before your wedding, it’s truly lovely to see how your posts display the subtle warmth and love for each other... to more years to come!
thank you for your lovely words. as i do for yours, i'm sooo happy for you and your husband to have found each other, and most of all, treasure each other.
But oh so lovely! Wishing you many more years together.
thanks, Su-Lin!
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