The IM pop-up screamed, "You don't know if he likes Bergman?"
I frowned and pursed my lips in thought. The man and I have lived together for 3 years. And I don't know if he likes Bergman. Well, the truth is, I can't remember if that ever came up in a conversation. Besides the obvious stuff that all the friends and facebook know, I'm not sure if I know anything extra about his likes or dislikes.
I've seen many sides of him for sure. I can make pretty accurate guesses of his likes and dislikes. But if you ask me to concretely verbalize his exact likes and dislikes, I can't.
Say, for now, I've no idea if he still likes vodka. But I know he's so into single malts now. I thought being the metrosexual male he claims he is, he'd like shopping, but he doesn't fancy it. It's like, he thought I'd like 'Lost' and 'Heroes'. But I don't. He thought I'd hate 'Over There' and '24'. But I love them. The only one he got it right is 'Dexter'.
I don't consciously make a list. I prefer to slowly discover where his interests lie. I suppose we don't really care if the other's interests complement our own. We have such vastly different inclinations to many areas of living, lifestyle and opinions, that nothing very much surprises us if we should discover that whatever one likes, the other doesn't.
So the friends cannot come to ask me what he might like for a birthday present. Because I won't know. I can tell you he likes food. Beyond star anise, I don't know what he won't eat. I don't know his favorite food. I know he doesn't fancy pink. But I don't know his favorite color.
I can tell you he likes guitars. I can tell you he likes a Tom Anderson Atom in the walnut finish. And I can also tell you not to get him the 1972 Fender Telecaster Deluxe because I already got that for him for his birthday.
15 comments:
bergman the movie director???
anyway, no one ever said u gotta know EVERTHING bout the person u love... the discovery n finding out new things is kinda like the fun part of being in a relationship. really.
freakin' boring if everyone knew everything bout their partners.
ehhhhhhhh. but how can you not know his fav color?!!!
i daresay reading a man's mind or guessing at his inclinations is wayy simpler than trying to guess a woman's!
should not/must not know everything leh. and yes, we do change.
Wow - nice present. He'll like THAT for sure.
like i said afterwards, if he hasn't mentioned that he likes Bergman in 3 years, that probably means he is not crazy about his films.
i don't have a list either, and i don't hold interrogations to ask him what he likes not likes, it's just something you come to know, gradually.
so did you watch the youtube clip? like?
-a.
I think its easier to know what a man dislikes.
I figured man can tahan anything, NS must have made them more tolerant. :)
So unless its really terrible, they can take it.
cavalock: yup. that one. keeps the exciting factor up.
opal: dunno leh. he's quite alright about colors.
phil: hahha. i can't argue with that.
sinlady: agreed. and that change is exciting too.
dawn: well, he chose, he bought, i pay lor.
a: heh. out of curiosity, i asked him. yes he likes bergman. specifically for The Seventh Seal, Cries and Whispers, The Virgin Spring and The Serpent's Egg.
lms: ooh! i think they're kinda easy going in a way!
yeah, i think man are quite easy going with things, i dun see the need of knowing each of their likes and dislikes, in fact the process of discovering it one by one as time goes by will be even more interesting! =p
oh my. i have a feeling that's not the re-issue right?
the fun of being in a relationship is always discovering new things about each other any...otherwise, it'd be *SNOooooorrrreeee*..boring. hee
elaine: then i hope to keep it that way for a long time!
meteor: no way. it's the vintage deal.
wigglybits: yes yes!
awww. so sweet. you bought him a BIG pressie. :) keep that spark alive.
Don't worry, you're not alone. I am with my guy for nearly 3 years but there are still lots of things I don't know about him yet, but I am trying hard to discover.
You can't be worse than me. The 1st year, I gave him his birthday gift in advance, thus in the end, I nearly forgot his b'day on the actual day. :P
natasha: :)
annie: take your time!!
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