The man's out at a wedding. It's the wedding of a good friend's good friend (i.e the groom). I have met the couple on a superficial basis for a grand total of 3 times. Once for dinner, twice for drinks. All by proxy.
By virtue of the 2 degrees of separation, apparently, there was a verbal invitation to the wedding. Verbal, mind you. (I didn't hear anything spoken to my face) Not hard copy, not on email either. To my best of knowledge, I was not specifically told to show up.
So I put my foot down and absolutely refused to attend the wedding. Not even as 'partner'. As far as I was concerned, I had received no direct information nor invitation. As far as I was concerned, the man was the only one invited. Thankfully, the man did not speak further on this. We'd have gotten into a very nasty quarrel.
Hello, you're my good friend. It doesn't mean that your best pal is my good friend.
I don't respond to just any wedding invite. My stand on attending weddings borders on illogical. The entire world knows that.
I've spoken so little to the groom that there's no loss if he's not my friend and if he is, there's no gain. Their friendship won't make me happier or sadder. You know what? I don't even know how the bride's name is spelt, much less her surname.
8 comments:
Same to me, I wont attend any wedding dinner if there are no invitation on hand. If they are real/sincere, I bet it won't spend much of their time for typing an sms to us! (invitations by sms might onli be tolerated if they are good buddies)
i guess i will not attend any wedding that if the couple never even verbally invite me. If they don't invite, then i don't go, simple!~ =p
Donch blame you .. i won't either.
not illogical at all. if people go through the trouble of wedding rituals, then must be formal and proper all the way. your name not there, you not there. so straightforward in my mind. there!
Totally logical, makes perfect sense.
If I don't know the couple well and there's no formal invitation, why should I waste my time and money on them? Both could have been better spent on something/someone else. Period.
~CDR~
celcilia t: true.
elaine: YAH!
mamabok: i think you'll just ignore them!
sinlady: very simple one. hehehe.
CDR: yah. i was thinking that an omakase meal would be more worth it!
Oh!... I have to tell you this.
During my reception, in one of my invites, I wrote Mdm Yip and family, and I meant it as those people who live under the same roof as Mdm Yip (my mother-in-law) and that includes her, her daughter and her daughter's partner (they are not married but are living together).
Nick did not turn up for the reception and the next day, my elder sister-in-law smsed me asking why I did not invite him when he has been so good to my kids bringing them out every weekend...
I did not realise he was not there that night because well, I just did not notice and I was shocked to learn that he did not attend because I did not specifically wrote his name on the invite.
I was very upset for being thought of that way... though I knew it was a misunderstanding. I really meant for the invite to include him, and I wished that I knew the protocol well enough in the first place to list out the exact names. I assume that Mdm Yip and family would suffice but apparently not when they are not married and technically he is not part of the family yet. Sigh..
Anyway I smsed her, my youngest sil (the gf) since I don't have his number, and explained my intention and apologised for it. I still feel bad thinking about it. It was an honest mistake.
Do you think this good friend's good friend case is similar to mine?
I mean, I assumed that three people would attend when I wrote Mdm Yip and family and was shocked that they misunderstood it as just Mdm Yip and her daughter.
jomel: your story very cheeeem. but my case is no like that lah. apparently it was just an email invite to the man. the groom's friend told us to attend. plus the groom isn't even a close friend. we see him prob 3 times a year. we don't even talk on msn or anything usually. so whatever lor. this kind, i sure say no one. no matter wat. heh.
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