S and I made an agreement to meet more in 2025. And we did it. We've known each other for a number of years now, but we've not traversed too deep into the friendship till 2025. We have vastly different schedules, rather diverse interests and not many common hobbies. But we do have similar approaches to problem-solving and the approaches we adopt in handling matters.
We made an effort to meet monthly this year. It took some planning. Adult friendships either grow because you run in the same social circles, or your children or dogs go to the same events and activities. In that sense, your social circles widen and maybe intersperse depending on the sort of things you pick up along the way. But if our routines are set, then it's hard to gather new friends and keep them. Because, time. You need make time for new people. And we all have only 16 hours awake in a day.
It was a lovely chat that night at Etna. So glad the rains stopped in time for us to toddle to dinner dry, and it remained cool enough for us to be fairly comfortable seated on the al fresco patio. This is our last meet for 2025. I totally look forward to another round of regular meets in 2026.
I'm not keen to sit in sharing circles, regardless of what kind. Not even trauma support. I'm the type who very much prefer to sort out issues on my own, or to share with a few friends. Please don't just share with one friend. It's not about secrecy. It's about lightening the burden of your ONE friend. It's not fair to tress them mentally. Everyone carries our own baggage. We have limited capacity to carry someone else's.
Through the year of conversations I realized S's strengths. She’s a gem. S is now a friend, but yet she would also be a perfect person to bounce off matters of people management and corporate governance. Heh. While I try not to talk to friends about work, sometimes it's okay too, especially when we're not looking to profit or benefit off of their professional expertise. No freeloading. Adult friendships are indeed precious.
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