Friday, September 30, 2022

The Hokkaido Yubari


Autumn heralds the arrival of many seasonal fruits. Gorgeous apples, persimmons, nashi, and even matsutake. Some fruits are worth its weight in gold. It's time to indulge in a bit of fruit-buying and perhaps eat a few grilled Pacific saury at the restaurants. 

Happiness is buying a carton of Hokkaido Yubari musk melons and sharing it with friends. Chilled musk melons are such a lovely dessert. It's great for this hot and humid + mad rainy weather too. If I do inhale sugar, I'll take the sugar from fruits any day over cakes or kueh and such. 

Could the man and I quaff a few melons on our own? OF COURSE. These melons arrived not quite ripe, and keep well in the fridge. I picked out the most unripe ones in the shipment to make up my carton. We could do three easily over two weeks. The dog could have a sliver if she wishes, but she isn't interested in fruits. She generally doesn't have a sweet tooth for fruits or vegetables. She prefers cheese and cream, goat's milk or yoghurt. 

Sliced up the first musk melon three days after purchase. It was still firm, but ripe enough to be eaten. I like it at this stage. (Like how I prefer crunchy peaches and persimmons) I'm so greedy. I can finish a melon all by myself. When it gets riper, it gets softer, and sometimes it tends to be mushy. People say they like the texture when they're able to use a spoon to eat the melon. Erm.... no thanks. The man likes it somewhere in the middle, so I usually select a rather ripe melon for him. 

Thursday, September 29, 2022

Sacred Offerings :: Prasadam


Podi & Poriyal 
organized a themed dinner to showcase temple food and offerings across India. It partnered host and chef Rakesh Raghunathan to do this, and themed it as 'Podi & Poriyal X Rakesh Raghunathan presents Sacred Offerings Menu'. Of course we got together a table and went for it.

Rakesh Raghunathan also led a number of workshops to teach attendees how to make prasadam or prasada — vegetarian food cooked after praise and thanksgiving to the Lord and Hindu deities at the temple. Apparently there were singing and culinary history mentioned at these workshops for everyone to learn more about the temple meals after each festival. Unfortunately we couldn't join in for that. 

We were just here for the food. Teeehehehe. And excellent dishes we got. Podi & Poriyal does wonderful vegetarian food and didn't disappoint this time either. This 'Sacred Offerings' dinner was well curated and offer us a shortcut to peek into the various regions' food served at temples after a worship ceremony. It's up to the diners how much they want to read up about it. 

We began the evening with a refreshing welcome drink of panagam; it's served cold and lightly spiced during the summer festival of Sri Rama Navami. Then there were appetizers of idly from Kanchipuram and deep fried dosai from Madurai and a nobu kanji (a light lentil soup porridge) made during the month of Ramzan mainly eaten to break fast. 

The mains were all served together. The ven pongal from Srirangam was delicious. Depending on how you view porridge, this is either yucky or nice. Not everyone makes good pongal. This kitchen didn't make it too sweet. The combination of rice and moong dal ensures that you get all your carbs and proteins. The pineapple menaskai from Udupi Math, Karnataka went well with everything.

I thought I wouldn't like the samba sadam from Chidambaram Natarajar temple in Tamil Nadu because of the cumin. It's a mixed rice with pepper and jeera samba rice. However, upon first taste, I didn't mind it at all. The cumin ratio was brilliantly mixed, and went superb with the Chidambaram gosthu from the same temple, an eggplant in gravy. Some of the information about the food was scant because we were googling in English. Say, the kovil kadabam from Parthaasarthy temple in Chennai. The man couldn't resist it and asked for a second helping of this dish. It's like sambar rice, without poppy seeds and dry coconut. 

This is hands down one of my best meals of 2022. It was such a wonderful presentation of vegetarian food done well with spices, no garlic and no onions or chillies. Good old pepper did the job. The best part — we took the 6pm seating, stuffed our faces and had plenty of time to digest and get out of the food coma, and do other stuff before bedtime. 

Wednesday, September 28, 2022

'Pulau Ujong / Island at the End'


I had very much looked forward to catch Alfian Sa'at's 'Pulau Ujong / Island at the End'. I wasn't disappointed. It was excellent! Presented by WILD RICE and directed by Edith Podesta, the play sits in the genre of documentary-theater, bringing to audiences the urgency of the climate crisis and how it affects us intimately. We can't save the world; we can start by keeping our home intact and help it weather the extreme climate changes. (Pun intended.) 

Playwright Alfian Sa'at conducted interviews with "climate scientists, botanists, zoologists, ornithologists, environmental historians and activists." He distilled the information from these interviews into about 50 vignettes to make up the 2.5-hour play — "Their words, wishes and worries for the world take centre stage alongside the more- than-human voices we all need to hear – from zoo mascot Ah Meng to Singapore’s last tiger." 

The cast comprise Al-Matin Yatim, Ryan Ang, Koh Wan Ching, Krish Natarajan, and Siti K. They seemed to have taken on 10 characters each. The parade of little snippets was dazzling. There must have been 50 in total. We heard what the human interviewees have to say, then we had some crazy original lines from Siti K as a Banyan tree, Ryan Ang as a Trumpet Tree, Al-Matin Yatim as the Last Tiger in Singapore, Krish Natarjan as Ah Meng, three actors as the Northeast Monsoon, personified as Gambier and Pepper, etc. There was even a pen-pal exchange between Inuka the Polar Bear (who passed away in 2018) and Sharmila the Dolphin (who was among the 27 captured from the Solomon Islands and brought to RWS Singapore)

Siti K's portrayal of a Banyan tree and the story she had to tell was simply beautiful. She weaved in an Indonesian folklore 'Bawang Merah Bawang Putih', the version with a fish, fish bones, and had a swing in the tree. There was Koh Wan Ching as a Great Hornbill. Then I had a fit of giggles and just had to google and read up about hornbills in Singapore, especially the piece in 2008 about a pair of female hornbills whose behavior were apparently... "aberrant"

The creative use of water in the set was brilliant. Set designer is Johanna Pan.  It's not just the sound of the birds and all that audio. The sound of actual water making sounds... that brought the audiences out of the theater and into our natural landscape. I didn't really notice the costumes till later on. I really like that hornbill costume worn by Koh Wan Ching. The program informed me that the costumes were designed by Max Tan

The play asked hard questions. It didn't seek to provide answers. There wouldn't be clear answers to be found within this generation. It was a thought-provoking play. It ended on a hopeful note still, in spite of hope being meagre. It reminded us that it will take everyone's effort, no matter how minuscule, to save the environment and mitigate the disastrous effects of climate change. The final vignette held Nature Society incumbent President Dr Shawn Lum's thoughts about their efforts in lobbying the government to keep Dover Forest, and how he had help from everyone and unexpected quarters to conserve Chek Jawa.

Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Celebrating N's 47th!


We were certain that the dogs were the happiest when we hung out at home to celebrate N's birthday. Choya had earlier sent a big vase of roses over to her ahemmm... 'MIL'. She wore a festive bandana to wish N well, and then ran off to play. 

The moment Choya got out of the elevator, she bounded off to run with Ryo. They sprinted to and fro, under the tables, and up and down the corridor. I couldn't even catch her to remove her bandana till much later. Ryo is always so proud of his 'turf' and he's the most affectionate at home. Tonight he also proceeded to nuzzle Choya non-stop. She didn't mind it. And when she did, she simply stepped away, and Ryo got it. 

It was a table of 10. I thought N would cater in food for dinner. She told me to bring nothing and cook nothing when I asked about how she would manage, and if we could contribute to the meal. I should have known that the birthday girl would totally sort it out herself. Dohhhh. Sure, she has an able helper. BUT STILL. N didn't cater food for the party except to get pizza takeout. She got them in two flavors of pepperoni and a vegetarian option of mushroom. We started with those. I didn't dare to take that much. I was saving my stomach for the mains. Hahaha. 

For the mains, she prepped her own and cooked. It was a laden dinner table. Burrata and tomato salad, warm toasted bread, and lamb chops. It was filling. If anyone was still hungry, there were two types of pastas — pork sausage and black truffles, and a hearty seafood mix of Manila clams, prawns and octopus. PASTA. I was a happy camper. 

We couldn't finish all the food! Surprisingly, we had a sizable amount of leftovers. N made us bring home a small box each so that she didn't have eat the food for the next three meals. Hahaha. All of us didn't drink that much...... We had two bottles of champagne and two bottles of red. Not too bad for a table of six drinkers. The other four opted for water and yuzu juice.   

There was cake! N said she wanted all 47 candles on the cake. Well, four big ones and seven small ones. Not a literal 47 candles. Hahaha. I forgot to ask which home baker did this. P got the cake in lychee and peach. The texture  of the sponge was pretty good, and it wasn't as sweet as I expected. The sugar must have been reduced, or at least managed nicely. It was such a fun night, and better still when we could get home by midnight. What a lovely party!  

Monday, September 26, 2022

Women & Water


I waited quite a while for our National Library to stock the digital format of Clarissa Goenawan's 'Watersong' (2022). Ahhh... it was such a good read. Beyond an innovative plot, I like the author's phrasing and usage of words. When I finished the book, I grinned. Has the author been watching too many Japanese and Korean detective films and television dramas? LOL

Set in Japan, we learnt that as a young boy, Shouji Arai is haunted by dreams about drowning. A fortune teller said he would meet three women with water in their names, of which one could be his soulmate and one could could cause a loved one's death, or his own, by drowning. That would be Youko the girlfriend at the same university, Mizuki the client turned older friend-confidante and Liyun the university swimming club mate from Singapore who has a crush on him.

Shouji was also physically abused by his father, and bore mental trauma till today. His mother had done nothing to stop it. He was told to cover it up at school if people asked about cuts and bruises. There seemed to be dangerous incidents with the criminal underworld that happened in his childhood that he has forgotten.

In adulthood, Shouji Arai needed a job to stay on in Akakawa with his girlfriend Youko Sasaki. He decided to join his girlfriend to work at a highly secretive company that offers extremely exclusive 'listening' services without judgment to all manner of clients who want a listening ear. The caveat, everything these human 'ears' hear can't be repeated outside of the 'therapy table'. Everything is a secret. No questions must be asked, and all company rules to be obeyed without fuss. 

From then on, a series of choices led Shouji's life down different paths. He didn't want to keep quiet about the physical abuse a client suffered under her politician husband, received death threats, had attempts made on his life. There was a fire in the residential building he shared with Youko. The small and quiet town turned dangerous. He had to leave Akakawa in a hurry. Youko went missing too. Both left without saying goodbye to each other. Youko was rumored to be in Tokyo. He goes to look for her in Tokyo. Even as he runs into old schoolmates and got a job as a journalist, he keeps a low profile.

Years passed and Youko remains missing. Youko might have a complicated past that Shouji doesn't know and doesn't want to pry. She has a rather weary view of the world and she knows no human or situation is ever as simple as it seems. Shouji managed to find her, but things aren't what it seems again. 

'Everyone has a hidden side,' Youko said. 'It's like an onion. If you want to learn about a person, you peel off layer after layer. With each layer, you'll shed a tear. But if you peel too much, you'll be left with nothing.'

The ending is a pleasant surprise. Shouji finally remembered the one thing from his childhood that has been eluding him all his life. He repressed the incident and had locked it away for so long that he couldn't quite recall it even. The title is simply a reference to Handel's three Suites of Water Music. Don't forget, this isn't exactly a romance story. There's plenty of romance and love and emotions driving all the characters. But this is also a mystery with plenty of murders and deaths thrown in. 

Saturday, September 24, 2022

Shellfish & Pasta!


Happiness was eating pasta as a main and not as an appetizer portion during lunch in the middle of a busy day. Usually if I'm rushing about, then I don't particularly want a full meal. Stuffing my face always means a food coma settling in during a meeting when I need all my sharp wits about. 

Today at lunch with J at Bar Cicheti, we were both hungry and didn't bother with starter portions. A full main sized pasta bowl it was. J couldn't ever get past her favorite picci cacio e pepe. Hahaha. I don't know if she has bothered to eat other types of pasta in main portions. The restaurant has always trotted out dependable pasta in limited but lovely flavors. 

I had antihistamines and went for broke. Ordered a starter of Manila clams to share, and also a spaghettini nero with Argentinian prawns. I generally like all types of pasta, but vegetarian and shellfish flavors lend the most layers, so I'm inclined towards those. I do love shellfish, except they might just knock me out with rashes and a horrid itch, or worse shut down my airways. Ugh.

Since I had no afternoon meetings, I decided to have two glasses of sparkling (c'était un Le Les Blaisisières Blanc de Blancs Brut du Maison Crochet. Ils n'avaient ni prosecco ni cava) with my pasta. They were absolutely refreshing. What a perfect lunch with the best company. 

Friday, September 23, 2022

Pasta Together Before V Flew Out

When I texted V to meet and she gave me two dates to choose from, I was so glad that I didn't dawdle. While I couldn't change the date of the concert, there was a dinner fixed on the other date that could be rescheduled. So I did that. Only upon meeting V, I realized that she was flying out on her vacation the very next night. WTF! The date totally slipped my mind! Thank goodness this derelict friend caught her in time. 

Bundled up the Smol Girl and sprinted down to D.O.P for dinner with V. Gosh, to think I almost missed catching her before her trip. Accccck. I could catch her when she returns, but I would miss not seeing her face for a whole two months. I'm too used to seeing her regularly for coffee and meals and random things.

D.O.P never disappoints. Also, I've been having an insane craving for pasta. I haven't been working out extra, but the pilates classes have been grueling. So I've been hungry. GIMME MY CARBS. We shared a small starter of pan-seared scarmoza with porcini mushroom, For V, it was a tortellini with burrata, basil and ricotta in pink sauce, and a hearty penne bolognese for me. Two glasses of aperol spritz went so well with my pasta. I was very happy with dinner.

Thursday, September 22, 2022

Roberta's Pizza MBS

Some of the friends wanted a bite before watching the 6.30pm show at Sands Theater. So we simply turned up at 4.30pm at MBS, thinking that there should be a restaurant who could take us. Everything that was open at that time either didn't take reservations or they were already full. 

We ended up at Roberta's Pizza right across from Sands Theatre. The American chain is famous for its wood-fired Neapolitan-style pizzas. There was no queue at that time, and we sauntered right in to a table for six. Not all of us were hungry, so one pizza was sufficient and the rest of us simply ordered beer and lemonade. 

We opted for the Famous Original since that included the semi-sharp caciocavallo cheese, and added pork sausage to it. You will have to add toppings if you don't want to just eat cheese and dough and basil. It was pretty okay — the dough was good. BUT, it wasn't impressive. I wouldn't queue to have a taste of this pizza. By the time 5pm rolled around, the 44-seater restaurant was full, and there was a 20-person queue at the door. Okaaaay. People queue for pizza too.

The friends didn't mind having pizza as a light bite. Luckily for me, we were going to have supper after the show. Otherwise, I'd be damn hangry. For many reasons, I'm not hot about pizza. In fact, it's my most hated dish. I can't stand the taste or the associations. I've had too many frozen and cold pizzas during those tight-budget student days in NYC. Too many, too much, never again. 

I'll never understand why good pizzas in Singapore cost S$30 - $38 each. This over-hyped pizzeria's menu only holds pizzas and bottled drinks. The salads and appetizers are like, sad and are an utter waste of calories. Don't bother. They might as well have opened up a kiosk instead of paying rental for a shopfront at MBS. If you've been drooling over 'Chef's Table: Pizza' on Netflix, Roberta's recipes got nothing on any of those. TBH, you won't be having pizza at MBS if you have any other choices. 

Wednesday, September 21, 2022

'The LKY Musical' in SG57


I didn't watch 'The LKY Musical' when it was SG50. Now it's SG57, I've been coerced to watch this musical. You know how I feel about musicals. As much as I admire Kwa Geok Choo, I didn't even bother to watch her story produced by Toy Factory. This one lasted 150 minutes, with a 20-minute intermission. To have to sit through a theatrical CV of the esteemed political titan's life spanning 25 years, was not my idea of an enjoyable show. 

I attended the musical for various other reasons (say, for the friends who flew into town for a night or two) than actually wanting to watch it for the topic, the music or the actors. Of course I wouldn't be able to tell any improvements to the story or changes to the songs between the first staging in 2015 and this one in 2022. 

Still staged by Aiwei and Singapore Repertory Theatre, the large-scale musical is directed by Steven Dexter, with a book by Tony Petito, and a storyline by Meira Chand. The songs are composed by Dick Lee who rearranged and tweaked them for this year, and the orchestrations are done by Bang Wenfu. The lyrics were written by Laurence Olivier Award-winning Stephen Clark. Seasoned theater thespian Adrian Pang reprised his role, and shared the stage with Kit Chan. (That role was previously played by Sharon Au.) 

This isn't a musical that could travel. I'm not sure which city would be that welcoming of a musical about LKY. Hurhurhur. He's a respected statesman. Some bits of the musical are done in Hokkien, especially the parts spoken by the trishaw riders. The surtitles were shown in Chinese only. Needless to say, the friends didn't understand all of it. They asked if it felt weird hearing the dialogue in dialect and then they slipped back into English for the songs. Not really though. I thought the transition went pretty smoothly.

The set is beautifully designed; it did wonders to create different scenarios for musical. The lyrics are kinda fun. Not bad at all. However, I feel that the vocal talents of the lead actors are woefully under-utilized. The melodies and songs didn't do justice to Kit Chan's voice (which has fully recovered from surgery in 2014). There wasn't anything outstanding about the music or the melodies. As a musical, they were simply utilitarian. 

Tuesday, September 20, 2022

BBQ! 🍖🥩🫑


Hadn't done a cookout with the friends for a while. So glad that J and L could host and almost everyone made the date. We hadn't hung out in a group of usually ten (twelve would be a full group) for a while. It was a happy night. 

Our hosts brought down a cooler box with chilled bottles of wine. We began with a light and easy champagne while waiting for everyone else to arrive. Then we moved on to a Grüner Veltliner, then a chablis. There was a sparkling shiraz somewhere too, but I skipped that. Didn't feel like mixing red and white. I kept the drinking to a minimal.

Didn't have to leash Choya to anywhere. I simply dropped the leash. She knows that she shouldn't run off. Ahhhhh... stay and recall. All the training that is so useful now. She was happily sniffing around, but didn't anyhowly lick stuff off of the ground. She was content to find a few corners to chill out at. She even got taken for a short stroll by Uncle D. 

We contributed cooked food in the form of a party box of sliders (beef and chicken) and Caesar's salad from GRUB. The man also marinated two pieces of raw flank steaks. Those were taken out from the marinade bag, patted dry, sprinkled with salt and pepper before going on the grill. They still turned out tender still without having been sous-vide. The big fire seared in the marinade beautifully. The sliced up flank was tasty!  

The hosts had thoughtfully prepped pork chops, ribeye, and some veggies. Those went onto the grill first. The rest brought satay and otah, and 7-up chicken wings and drumlets. Great bites. Since many here tonight are allergic to shellfish, we skipped the seafood. Eating slowly through the night meant that nobody over-ate and everyone was nicely stuffed. All the meats and veggies sizzled fine on the gas grill. Heirloom carrots, charred Brussels sprouts, etc. The corn was chopped into manageable pieces. I ate so much corn. Noms. 

Monday, September 19, 2022

Is it a Book Club or a Wine Club?


Chuckled when I saw Emma Sarappo's 'How to Keep Your Book Club from Becoming a Wine Club?' in The Atlantic, September 13, 2022. She spoke with her contacts on how to run a book club with the basic tenet of the club met — to have actually read the book in question. "Librarians, professors, and literary professionals offer their best advice on how to run a successful group."

The last time I joined a book club was in school. Even then, I hated it. Everything I envisioned a book club to be, didn't happen. I get that the chosen book to be discussed will likely never be the genre I'm keen on. Everything else after that, became a social thing that I didn't enjoy. And here I thought that book clubs are for introverts. 

This scene is recognizable for a reason: Running a book club is hard. The format combines a social obligation with, essentially, adult homework. Even journalists who cover books are susceptible to this pattern. Like many others, I attempted to start a book club in the early days of the coronavirus pandemic. I was home all the time with little to do other than read; I had a willing group of my best friends on board; we’d made a schedule and discussed titles. And probably like a significant chunk of clubs that had started similarly, ours flopped very quickly. We struggled to decide what to read, had a hard time meeting consistently, and eventually abandoned the enterprise altogether.

I feel that book clubs organized by libraries and bookshops tend to be more successful than those organized as a social event, or worst, as a 'ladies afternoon/evening social'. Running a book club is like running meetings. The organizer shouldn't be the facilitator. Well, you could, if you have a pleasant enough voice and you are a trained facilitator. 

In this comment, everyone interviewed offered helpful suggestions: 

  • Be specific
  • Picking the right book is important...
  • ...But don't overthink it
  • Nail down the cadence
  • Have a facilitator
  • It's okay not to finish the book
  • The most important thing is connection. 

Right. All very useful. I wouldn't hold a book club meet at meal times then. Even the matter of offering light bites put pressure on the host to have to cater to everyone's preferences. There's such a thing of potluck, but that makes people obligated to do it. Well, some people like to do this sort of extra effort things. People take it as something to look forward to. It's pleasant, I suppose. 

When I got to the end of the article, I realized that my expectations of a book club differ greatly from the writer's. If I join one, it's really so that I could hear others' comments and opinions about the genres of books that I don't usually opt to read. I'm not there to socialize. Although meeting once in eight to nine weeks is extremely do-able. Most people join book clubs to socialize and feel that sense of purpose and belonging, and many enjoy meeting once in four weeks. 

What I wanted from my book club was to come together with my friends, even though we were separated from one another by geography and the threat of illness. Even though we didn’t last long, thinking about the same challenges, mulling over the same twists, and showing up to talk about them was valuable. Reading was just a pretense to get us all in the same Zoom room. So here’s the last piece of advice I got: Even if your meetings come to an end, cherish the conversations you did have. The most important part of a book club is the club, not the books.

Saturday, September 17, 2022

Charlie Lim & The Great Wave


Bought tickets to a show by Charlie Lim and a number of musicians from The Great Wave (a music collective). Ahhh... I've missed stepping into nice venues to watch shows. This was held at the Esplanade Concert Hall. Looking at the concert calendar, I'll probably be at Esplanade's various venues A LOT these two months. Hurhurhur. 

The night began with Charlie Lim's older pieces and new songs. He calls his all-star band 'The Mothership'Adam Shah, Chok Kerong, Euntaek Kim, Evan Low, Jase Sng and Soh Wen Ming; he also had guest guitarist Mark John Hariman, who was in town for a quick bit. Then his first guest Dru Chen strolled in to perform 'Pedestal' (2011) with him. Then it was a parade of KEYANA, YEO, Kittypurrnaz, Umar Sirhan and Aisyah Aziz

I haven't heard Charlie Lim play live for what... almost a decade. While this genre of music is not quite my type of music (I dunno, call it modern pop, neo-soul, Prismizer vocal effect, R&B, whatever), I didn't mind a lovely evening listening to our Singapore musicians. They are very good. I didn't bother wearing a mask. And no, I still haven't tested C+ on the ART kits or a PCR test. 

I was kinda sleepy. Then my eyes widened when cellist Ng Pei-sian strolled in. I didn't know he was part of this. He and Charlie Lim played their collaborative song from 'UTOPIA Reimagined' (April 2022),  'Into Dreams'

Then the lights dimmed out. Pei-sian did a solo cello intro for Charlie Lim's 'Light Breaks In' (2017). It was beautiful. At this point, I swore almost the entire hall put down their phones to simply listen to him. That was utterly mesmerizing. This solo cello intro was specially written for him by Chok Kerong.

I've heard Pei-sian play, and I enjoy his playing. He's such a superb cellist with that magical touch. (His twin brother is an accomplished cellist too.) The two songs chosen were gorgeous on the cello. This cello segment of the concert, and well, this cellist totally made my night. 


Friday, September 16, 2022

Seafood Paofan


When we went over to W's and said we'd get lunch and bring over, she insisted on getting lunch instead. Aiyoh, this woman. She loves to feed us! I feel bad because it's always an effort to have people visit, play host and still feed them! So we told her to get the easiest stuff that's convenient for her to hop out and buy home. We got a lovely chocolate cake for dessert; W stopped by the Holland Drive kopitiam to get paofan (泡飯) from King of Pao Fan (泡飯王).

The man has never tried paofan and was curious about it. Paofan holds broth and seafood, so he was up for it. He had been lemming for seafood but I told him to stay off shellfish till his antibiotics cleared and his wounds aren't so raw anymore. He doesn't need the additional histamines and more stomach acid to irritate his gut before the omeprazole (gut soother) and antibiotics got a chance to work. His bowl totally hit a spot. Prawns and clams with bits of fried fish, and crisp fish skin.

I popped an antihistamine pill prior because that broth might trigger a rash. It's a seafood broth and it would definitely contain prawn heads. I'm less keen on paofan because it's got broth and rice. It's Teochew, and I don't quite fancy rice in soup. (It isn't congee.) I'm not hot about the crispy rice puffs and egg floss either. Although my bowl of broth plus rice and fried fish made for an easy lunch. The broth was surprisingly elegant, and the fried fish was decent. I loved having chilli padi with the meal. It was a tasty bowl. 

Thursday, September 15, 2022

The Smart Weighing Scale

I love how technology evolved and improved. The smart weighing scale wasn't something that many people used. Now, the usage of BIA (bioelectrical impedance analysis) is the standard. The weak electrical current sent through your body picks up everything you hold within. Arguably, accuracy depends on how well the current passes through your body. It's the algorithm that is important, and how wide the variances are.

The man bought a Renpho scale, synced up the app and stepped onto it to measure his health metrics. He wanted to track his weight loss and whatever progress to match his Lumen stats. I watched him with amusement. I never bother much about weighing myself. If I look into the mirror and I'm satisfied, and I feel good overall, then we're okay. 

The man is weighing himself daily. Okaaayy. He created a profile for me and made me step onto the weighing scale too. He said he was curious about my metrics. Dohhhhh. Seriously. I'm not as obsessed as he is. I won't be weighing myself every day. 

I looked at the stats. BMI isn't a big concern riiiight. Okay, this basic breakdown looks decent. Nothing is troubling on the superficial side. My protein intake is adequate. Renpho sets standard protein intake between 14.5% to 16%. Mine is at 17.7%. 

My weight fluctuates between 46kg to 49kg. That's fine. I can't hold it at 50kg because I'm not building enough muscle to do so. I shouldn't be eating till I hit 50kg. If 50kg is achieved through eating, my love handles would pop out. The flab would be pretty obvious. So the scales agreed, and apparently I need to increase my muscle mass by a huge margin. 

My subcutaneous fat is low too. Nice. That's more of a concern at my age isn't it? My metabolic age is 40. Hmmm. Basal metabolic rate (BMR) doesn't factor in physical activities. It simply measures the number of calories my body requires to function while at rest. Well, I always know that I have a very slow heart rate at rest, and IBS ensures that I take food that my body can digest easily. So I suppose that all helps with my metabolism. If it slows, I feel sluggish.

The man is upset because his metabolic age is 50. Ermmmm. That is older than his 47 years. He does need to watch his food and exercise. He's doing that even more now. He couldn't even breathe into the Lumen last week. This week, he's breathing better, but not quite ready for HIIT at the gym. He's making a conscious effort to eat cleaner, and exercise smarter. I have told him that doing HIIT and weights won't help him with metabolic rate; he needs to be stretching a lot more.

Wednesday, September 14, 2022

Only The Best Mee Siam!

Aunty J cooked up a giant pot of mee siam and kept two portions for us. She said that the koo chye and sambal prawns were insufficient, and we should boil an egg or something to add on to the meal. The man and I didn't mind that at all. Aunty J's dry mee siam is superb. Eating it alone with tofu puffs would already be very tasty. We were super touched by her thoughts to fix us a good meal to send some cheer to the still-recuperating man.

When I opened up the boxes, I realized that the food could easily feed three people. Wow! Had to keep a portion for brunch the next day. I don't care about koo chye. I avoid it like laksa leaves and coriander. The box of koo chye was also more than enough to sprinkle over three plates. There was gravy of course, a generous amount of gravy separately packed in order for us to ladle our preferred amounts over the thick beehoon

The sambal prawns weren't at all meagre. It filled up a small tub! Gorgeous rempah. The man would have more of that since he really like prawns. He has been craving for prawns, but held out eating shellfish since he was still recovering. We didn't bother with boiling eggs because there were eggs eaten at lunch. In the man's bowl, I added braised chicken breast and a piece of store-bought mackerel otah. Mine held a petai and anchovy otah. That made a perfectly delicious dinner. 

Tuesday, September 13, 2022

The Onam Sadhya at Home :: 2022


Onam has come around, and of course we would want to have a festive Sadhya. When the man finally got his appetite back and was ready to eat, spices were definitely in order. Ordered the sets to-go from Spice Junction for lunch.

The pick up was easy. We took a 10.30am to 11am slot. Got there at 10.45am. The bag of food was ready. I zipped in and out within eight minutes. For the past few years, we've had Onam meals at home. Tbh, it's much more comfortable eating at home, although that meant we couldn't have refills. Hahahaha. Ah well, we can't eat that much anyway.

The only thing about the Sadhya from Spice Junction — most of the items are done with coconut milk, so we can't quite portion out some to keep for dinner. As much as I love the olan and the thoran, we would have to finish them all at lunch. So I did. I didn't quite fancy the pickles though. I never do. They're just a tad odd for me. The pappadam today was crisp! Went well dipped in the curries.

This was the biggest lunch the man have had all week. He didn't have that much appetite prior. It slowly returned. By the last weekend of Onam, he felt more human again. He was sufficiently hungry, and at this lunch, he managed to eat double the amount of rice he has had in two weeks. LOL The bananas given with the meal had to go into the fridge too, for the man to snack on the next day or whatever. No more stomach space. 

I'm relieved to see the man eating the Onam Sadhya with relish. What a traumatic experience. Yes, it could have been worse, so I'm thankful that there was timely medication intervention, and his post-op recover is turning out well, and his body is healing as expected. 

We ate up everything, well, all the savory dishes. There were two types of payasam, which were predictably super sweet. The man only took two token sips from each payasam, and we had to chuck the rest. They gave a giant box of rice. It was A LOT of rice. Gosh! We couldn't even finish half. Froze the rest. It was the lovely Kerala matta rice. Low GI and plenty of antioxidants. No way I'm throwing out this rice.    

Monday, September 12, 2022

'Indelible City' :: 真的是‘光復香港、時代革命‘嗎?


I had to read Louisa Lim's 'Indelible City: Dispossession and Defiance in Hong Kong' (April 2022). But I couldn't read this book as though it's fiction. I had to take my time about it. I didn't finish it in one sitting either. It wouldn't do the book justice and it won't help me mull over the author's points of view. 

When it comes to political views and comments, sometimes it's very subjective, especially when it concerns social shifts. To me, this is a very sad read. (Reviews herehere and here.)

Also, it's Hong Kong. I didn't grow up in Hong Kong and even if I think I understand the history and political shifts, and Beijing's National Security Law, I don't think I know enough of it, and especially not how its people truly feel about Beijing as the Overlord and Master. What if it's 50-50? Then what? 

The book is divided into eight chapters and three parts — Part 1: Dominion, Part 2: Dispossession and Part 3: Defiance. Journalist and long-time Hong Konger who now lives in Melbourne, Australia, Louisa Lim couldn't be that honest about events and people in her book. In the Author's Note, she said,

This act of stripping away the identities of interviewees is all the more painful because my aim in writing this book was to place Hong Kongers front and center of their own narrative. Yet in this national security era, writing about Hong Kong's distinct identity is land-mined with risk. Indeed, many of Hong Kong's best writers can no longer find the words, or even the platforms to express themselves openly.

Most friends I know who live in Hong Kong either as citizens or long-term residents have left the city. They left as quickly as possible, in fear and disappointment. Luckily they did. The exit bans in August 2021 were madness. Apple Daily disappeared overnight. The political promises of 1997 have evaporated. The Hong Kongers themselves had no say over any of the negotiations between Chinese and the British governments. Neither do Hong Kongers have a say now. 

The National Security Law is all-encompassing. It's amending textbooks and reeducating teachers, seeking to change the historical narrative of the former British colony, as well as 1989 Tiananmen incident. Even Cantonese is being eroded. Not when Beijing literally shuts down all dissent unceremoniously and as heavy-handed as she needs to be. Beijing's power is absolute. 香港能重光嗎?

Language is a key identity marker for Hong Kongers, who speak Cantonese rather than the standardized Mandarin—known as putonghua, or "common language"—introduced by China's Communist rulers in 1956. Though Cantonese is often viewed as a dialect, it's incomprehensible to Mandarin speakers. Some linguists see it as closer to classical Chinese than Mandarin, deploying archaic participles, ancient sounds, and traditional complex characters rather than the simplified ones used on the mainland. Unlike standardized Mandarin, Cantonese is gloriously irregular, its rules of pronunciation so causal that some words can be pronounced with either an initial n or l sound, used interchangeably. Cantonese didn't even get a romanization system until the 1950s, a full century after Mandarin was romanized by Thomas Wade. To this day, there's still no consensus about which of two romanization systems should be used or even how many tones Cantonese has; the range is five to eleven, depending on whom you ask.

I don't view the protests as a single-layered fight for democracy. That's too simplistic. It's a little bit more than that. The Hong Kongers have woken up and want a say, and even as Beijing literally rolls over them, they want a say. I'm not fond of the Communist rhetoric. I don't buy it and I don't accept it. Beijing can't seem to accept the Chinese diaspora doesn't all belong to her, and not all Chinese people are the same. 

As a then-journalist on the frontline of the 2019-2020 protests, the author witnessed police brutality to all protesters and journalists. Journalists were beaten, harassed and detained. The author was routinely tear-gassed and pepper-sprayed. Elections and its results did nothing to quell the unrest. Beijing wouldn't back down. Hong Kong's own government leaders doubled down with even more force. 

Protesting with Chinese calligraphy: 'The King of Kowloon' — Tsang Tsou-Choi (1921-2007). Who is this King? / Louisa Lim for The Guardian
自稱「九龍皇帝」的曾灶財的街頭塗鴉無人不曉,他花了超過五十年的時間及心機,堅持在香港的大街小巷用毛筆書寫漢字,透過他獨特的文字宣傳自己主權,也被譽為「香港街頭塗鴉文化始祖」。

I've never seen so many friends flee Hong Kong the way refugees flee a war zone. People I know have been arrested, detained, released, and re-arrested. Even when one isn't in Hong Kong, the space for discussing about the events in Hong Kong have diminished. Threats against activists (in exile) and such are credible and plentiful. 

The state of Hong Kong society and politics is something I know fairly well and I keep up with it, out of personal interest and for work related purposes. But it isn't a topic I'm keen to discuss with people at a social gathering. Not even if you're an academic. I don't have an objective viewpoint about it, and I'd like to stay within my echo chamber. 

I was keen to know the author's thoughts about Hong Kong history, and the city she grew up in, and her experiences covering new shuttling between mainland China and Hong Kong. I was interested to know about her interview with the 28th and the last Governor of Hong Kong (1992-1997) Chris Patten, now Baron Patten of Barnes and Chancellor of Oxford University. The author doesn't mince her words in this book. You can be sure this book isn't going to be available anywhere in China. Even possessing a copy or be found to have read it could cause one to be prosecuted. The irony. In the Epilogue, she concluded,

Beijing's endgame was total dominance. Its actions sabotaged its own One Country, Two Systems formula, exposing it for the sham it was. In imposing the legislation, Beijing had in one fell swoop undermined the high degree of autonomy it had promised to Hong Kong, sidelined its judiciary and canceled its rule of law. It was as if, in order to fix a leaky pipe, the builders had pulled down the entire house and plowed up the land under its foundations. 

Tsang Tsou-Choi (1921-2007) or in pinyin, Zeng Zaocai's works are now very rare, and a few have been protected by transparent boxes. / Anthony Kwan for The New York Times.

Saturday, September 10, 2022

Post-Op Day 12 :: Tiny Movements

1.5 weeks from the laparoscopic appendectomy for the man's ruptured appendix, the keyholes have scabbed over, and the Steri-Strips are doing their job. The two courses of antibiotics are completed. His appetite has returned, and the bowel movements have normalized, indicating that the trauma and shock to his gut microbiome have settled. I'm making sure that he gets sufficient Vitamin C, fruits, yoghurt and lots of hydration. His skin and tissues require loads of nutrients to heal.

The raw hole is the one that we have to be careful about. It's the one that intra-abdominal drain tube was inserted; the tube was taken out on the day of discharge, and the gaping hole needed time for a superficial skin closure. To our great relief, it began healing nicely. Upon removal of the tube and discharge from hospital, the gauze dressing held clean for 48 hours at home. The dreaded pus and inflammation are kept at bay. We followed up with a daily change of dressing and wiping down the area with saline. 

The man is able to get in and out of bed easier. He had needed the support of a walking stick for the first few days, but it's not necessary now. While driving, the stomach doesn't hurt so bad whenever he goes over bumps and uneven patches. The man needs to rebuild his core. He would muscle scarring and he needs to minimize that as he slowly heals. A trip to the supermarket earlier exhausted him. He has learnt that his stamina is totally depleted and if he strains, he breaks out in cold sweat or tear his healing muscles. Ugh. NO GOOD.

At this juncture, he can't walk Choya on his own yet. When the 7-kg dog pulls at her leash, he can't run with her or hold her down. He definitely can't pick up her poop. He's unable to walk the whole route with us as well. The heat and humidity add to the exhaustion. He'd have to sit down to wait for us to be done. He is getting stronger day by day though. We take it slowly then. He can start with simple gyrotonic stretches and rotation in another three to five days. 

Thursday, September 08, 2022

Pita Pockets at Home!

When I said the man is recuperating at home, he totally is. As slow and excruciating it is, he forces himself to take daily walks with Choya. He has to walk off the bloatedness and slowly rebuild his core. He isn't up for eating at the restaurants either. He can't eat that much and he still can't sit through a one-hour meal upright in the dining chair. So he certainly isn't up for receiving guests till tonight. Well, not that people need to come visit. They don't need to and they don't have to. The text messages from our friends were more than sufficient to warm our hearts. 

When the man felt better, S and N ran off from the office early, and came over for a chat. They popped out to buy food and brought dinner too— pita pockets from Miznon! There was plenty of food! The table had ABU Kebab with beef and lamb, tahini, chilli, salsa, onions and parsley, Folded Cheeseburger with a fried egg, onions, sour cream, and aioli, two portions of the Lamb Shawarma of sliced lamb, tahini, chilli, tomatoes and onions, and a Mushroom of portebello, oyster, shiitake, aioli chilli and sour cream. Pickles were packed into all the pita pockets. All the pickles are long, generous, crunchy and delicious! 

Ahhh... these pita pockets truly hit a spot. The man loved his lamb shawarma. He could eat and had appetite. He finished the entire portion. That was a surprise. He couldn't finish full portions at one sitting. Luckily he didn't over do it. There was an extra mushroom pita that we bought to share between us. Noms. 

Dessert was randomly bought from Awfully Chocolatea chocolate stack and a nutella tart. We had wine too, two bottles! That was my first drink in 1.5 weeks. Ahhh..... I needed it. S and N and I split two bottles of wine! There was no alcohol for the man of course. Hurhurhur. Not till he's cleared of antibiotics, and all risks of an abscess. His digestive system is being reset, and he can't afford to fuck it up. 

Wednesday, September 07, 2022

Salt & Pepper Flank Steak & Roasted Pumpkin on Greens


Mindful that the man would have significant skeletal muscle loss, I've urged him (and he knows it) to do two walks a day and I'll watch his diet and consider his intake of complex carbohydrates and protein. His body should have stabilized from the muscle catabolism that arose from the stress response to surgery.

Steak and salad for dinner tonight it was. Found a decent 280-gram flank steak at Ryan's, and sorted out the rest of the items at the adjacent CS Fresh. The steak was small enough for us. We couldn't eat that much meat nowadays. The man's appetite is still diminished. Marinated the steak for an hour and left it to sous vide for two hours. Then I finished it in the pan. #ImpieCooks2022

The man felt like a tangy tomato soup too. I bought that. I was a tad tired to rustle up a soup from scratch. For instant soups, those packs from Soup Spoon and Saybons are always pretty decent. Opted for a pack 'Fresh Tomato Soup' from Saybons. Heated it up and it tasted fine to us. 

My favorite salad is probably a hearty one with spinach and lettuce with roasted pumpkin and mushrooms. Decided to do without mushrooms tonight. Twenty minutes in the oven was sufficient to soften the pumpkin. It was a kabocha, so the skin was intact. Even if I couldn't stomach that much meat, this salad made me very happy. Well, you could call it a side too. 'Roasted pumpkin on greens', perhaps. 

It was a happy tray of roasted pumpkin with baby spinach and homegrown bok choi and cherry tomatoes. There was no salad dressing beyond the standard seasoning of olive oil, balsamic, salt and pepper, basil and paprika. A nice bob of burrata in this salad would really up the game, but he shouldn't be having cheese for dinner. His Ciprofloxacin doesn't allow for dairy or calcium intake two hours before and after the dose.

Tuesday, September 06, 2022

Post-Op Day 8 :: Recuperating at Home


The man is now recuperating at home. With the perforated appendix removed, that is the space that will be conducive for an abscess to form. The intravenous infusion of antibiotics should have quelled the infection while the intra-abdominal drain tube did its job. 

Now, aided by oral antibiotics and paracetamol for a week, we hope that no abscess forms. We're watching for a fever, extra bloat and an increase in pain levels. His kidney and liver have to take over detoxification and ensure that sepsis doesn't happen. 

He didn't want to stay one more day in the hospital. His discharge report literally typed out 'Discharged Against Advice'. I do see a huge difference between private and public hospitals in Singapore. And we already have a really decent medical infrastructure in this city. SGH doesn't trust patients to make informed decisions. I feel that the doctors at SGH doctors don't talk to patients enough. They're brusque and only give basic information that doesn't even cover layman terms. They're conservative and a tad high-handed. While the standard of medical care couldn't be faulted, and the A&E staff and triage room doctors were prompt and efficient, the post-surgery check-ins/instructions and after-care at the ward leave a lot to be desired. In terms of doctor-patient interaction and sharing of information and hours spent on communication, the private hospitals fare a lot better. 

We were firm and insistent. That was how I rectified a hospital administrative oversight in terms of our request for a bed upgrade. They threw paperwork in my face. REALLY. I REGULARLY EAT PAPERWORK OKAY. I ate it and spat paper balls right back at them, politely. I got the bed upgrade in 45 minutes. The man was transferred to the next available single bed room within four hours. The man also made his demands to talk to the doctors or consultants, and insisted on a clear explanation of the current situation. We aren't children. Neither are we so dumb that we can't understand what you say. Use medical terms, FFS. Don't give us layman language. It's frustrating and infantile. 

We were rather annoyed with a sweeping judgment the junior doctors made and we called them out on it. We had mini debate about the potassium chloride infused. The man reacted badly to it. He stopped the infusion of the second bag and rejected the third. Come on, if the whole point of giving KCI via the central line was because he didn't eat or drink, that's crazy. The bloodwork didn't show low potassium levels; his follow-up X-ray was clear. You refused to listen to us that there were food and drinks taken, and we just didn't want the shitty catered meals. You refused to let us not order your food too. What a waste. SGH's food vendors are terribly lacking. There weren't even eggs for breakfast.  

Byeeeeeeeeeeee.

Post-op Day 5, the man made clear his intention to leave when the bloodwork cleared and all stats held steady, and he felt well enough. I didn't have an opinion either way. He's lucid and coherent. He's capable of independent thought. Since I didn't see any significant risk in him coming home, why stay an extra day if he's getting cabin fever. I'd just support his decision. There's only so much the post-op care in a hospital could do. This isn't considered a major procedure. He would do better at home if he gets sufficient sleep and nutrition. 

He's napping loads and resting in the recliner mostly. It's the most comfortable for his stomach. He has to take it easy for two weeks, and allow the muscles to heal. I blinked when the discharge advice said not to lift > 5kg for 5 weeks. Wah. Okay. Upon reading that, the first thing Dan said was, "I can't carry Choya." Well. Win lor, see where his priorities lie. 

He said he could feel every moment jolting his stomach keenly and every step is jarring. Well, he's missing one useless appendix. While all the organs didn't care where it went, they're shifting a little since there's now more room in there. HAHAHAHA. His stamina is depleted. He would have to rebuild his core again. 

We eat at home since he's in no condition to last through a meal outdoors yet. There's no point eating out since he won't be able to deal with the heat, humidity, crowds, noise and such. What used to be the norm would be extra grating to him in this delicate state. He's taking it easy when it comes to meals. He literally can't stomach big portions. He eats small portions and does four meals a day. Choya is eating in the same way. She's begun to match meal timings with Daddy. Seriously. THESE TWO. 🙄

Chicken salad.
Greens of baby spinach and bok choi grown in our portable brainless pot under an LED light.

Monday, September 05, 2022

'The Black Rose Cat'


Veeraporn Nitiprapha's 'Memories of the Memories of the Black Rose Cat', พุทธศักราชอัสดงกับทรงจำของทรงจำของแมวกุหลาบดำ
 (published in 2018, which is stated as year 2561 ตุลาคม 2561 in the Thai calendar) is the second book that the friends gifted to me. I was happy because I can't quite get them in Singapore and I'd have to shop online to ship them in, which is the trend for book-buying these days. This is the most recent book by the author translated this year by Kong Rithdee

Set in the 1900s spanning the years of pre and post World War II till the 1970s, the story traces the beginnings of a now three-generation wealthy Sino-Thai family. A young boy named Tong who was born to farmers in rural China and was sent away to Siam, and became a successful rice trader. Tong married and settled down in Siam, but longed to return to his hometown in China one day. 

The narrator of the story seemed to be a boy named Dao. He heard all the stories from Grandma Sri (who is Jerdsri). Great-Grandfather Tong married Great Grandmother Sa-ngiem who is half-Mon and half-Teochew, and a great cook. By all accounts, it was a happy-enough marriage. They adopted one eldest son named Jongsawang, and Great-Grandma Sa-ngiem birthed another four in succession- Jarungsilp, Jerdsri, Jitsawai and Jarassang.  

As the way multi-generation families go, there will be in-fighting, scandals, pain, betrayal, allies and complex familial relationships, all of which make for melodrama. Men seemed to take second wives and mistresses like it was common. Women, of course had little social status in society or the community beyond keeping house and churning out good dishes from the kitchen to the dining table. 

Then there's this hint of a family curse of 'death by water'. It all seemed to have begun when Jarungsilp threw her baby boy into the river from postpartum depression and turned into a different woman after, and turned away from her husband, the family and the world. 

The event confirmed to Great-Grandpa Tong his conviction that his household had come under a curse that would condemn each and every family member to death by drowning. 

.....................

Since the day she let Ah Jung down, Jarungsilp never — for the rest of her life — permitted herself to be happy again. Not even for a day. Her animosity against the entire world was silent and irredeemable, and it resided in her heart until the day she died at the age of thirty-five, bent over with her head inside a water jar. The doctor said she must have fainted and drowned due to the irregular workings of her cancerous heart.

The family's children had loveless marriages, and led their spouses to their deaths, or well, outright killed them. Little Rapin was born to Jarassang, but lived as Jitsawai and Yeesun's son. This marriage broke Jongsawang's heart since he loved Yeesun but never said anything about it, and he left the family to make what he would of his own life as an odd-job laborer and a drunkard. Then Yeesun had a daughter Rarin, who isn't Jitsawai's, but Jongsawang's. My head exploded at this point. 

There was gambling, opium and The family lost its riches and one by one, its members died, by suicide, murder or by accident and frozen in an ice block. Nobody could carry on the glory of the family name or business, so to speak. There was indeed a pampered black cat named Black Rose. It belonged to Dao's mother, Rarin. His father is Rapin. Although they're cousins legally adopted by Jarassang, they technically don't have any blood relations. But at the end, it appeared that Jarassang's husband went nuts and killed Grandma Sri and Rarin. Jarssang also died. OMG This is such a tragic ending to the whole story. Whatever did the family do to deserve this? 

Dao's memory was hazy. After Mother, there was only him and Grandma Sri. And after Grandma Sri, it was just him, here and he couldn't remember when or how Grandma had left the story, and Mother had never told him anything when he asked. In fact, Mother had never told him anything at all. She only locked herself in slumber and silence. Something soft grazed his leg, a barely perceptible brush. It was Black Rose. Yes, Mother had locked herself in silence with this goddamn pussycat that was now swinging its little hips with a fine feline swagger as it entered the room. 

The final chapter blew my mind. I was like, Dao wasn't even born and the story was told from his in-utero perspective??! I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN. Damn, this was good. The cat named Black Rose saw it all. She joined the family when Rarin was there. She was a witness to so much saga in the family. 

Hope flickers like a setting sun, but we hang on to it anyway.

แม้ว่าความหวังจะริบหรี่เหมือนแสงอาทิตย์อัสดงและไม่อาจคาดเดาได้ว่าจะไปถึงเป้าหมายเมื่อไหร่

แต่แค่เพียงแสงจางบางๆ นั้นก็พอแล้วที่จะทำให้สิ่งใหม่ ๆ งอกงามขึ้นมา

Saturday, September 03, 2022

Acute Complicated Appendicitis

The man is suddenly stricken with severe abdominal pain that deteriorated overnight and ended up at the A&E at 6.30am. He had developed complicated appendicitis. The appendix was perforated and there was a risk of peritonitis. He got the emergency surgery required. 

It was a textbook laparoscopic appendectomy done. I was relieved. Thankfully there wasn't any peritonitis. But an abdominal drain tube was needed because he was at risk for postoperative intra-abdominal abscess (IAA) formation. Daily blood tests, a follow-up X-ray and an infusion of antibiotics were par for course. A simple case of appendicitis and laparoscopic appendectomy required maybe a 2.5 day stay at the hospital. For the man, we're looking at minimally four nights.  

The post-operative fever hit as scheduled and spiked to 40°C. It came down and returned, and finally broke after 12 hours. He rejected all the food the hospital sent in for meals because they were seriously horrid. He had poor appetite, and preferred his food to be brought in by yours truly. While he had about 200ml cups of soups and tablespoon-full portions of say, spinach and tofu, he really couldn't eat much for two days. His first slightly more substantial meal was eaten only on the third day post-op, along with a first decent night of sleep.

I'm not the best cook, but I can produce edible food. And I have the mind space to do some sort of quick and utilitarian cooking. I'm concerned about the man, of course. But I'm not too worried and I'm not stressed. He is in the good hands of the medical team. My capacity to bear such 'emotional' loads is quite high. I work with old folks at hospices and I always take palliative care patients under my wing if they needed a social worker. This isn't different. I can compartmentalize very well. What more, I have a Smol Girl who needs me more than the man does.   

Bananas and eggs are a tremendous source of needed potassium; he had plenty of that. He didn't want the IV of potassium chloride. That is ridiculously painful with horrid side effects. Brown rice and yoghurt helped to settle his topsy-turvy digestive system. The fever stayed away. He slept better and began to eat more. Whewwww. 

N had made yong tau foo for herself, and made extras. She insisted on keeping a box for us. She delivered it and added a big bag of fruits too. Awwwww. She didn't have to go through all the trouble, but she did. There were plenty for both the man and I to eat over two meals. I packed some for the man's dinner. He was hungry and ate it all up. Post-op Day 4 marked the first day he ate proper (small) portions of lunch and dinner. 

With some bits of sleep and normalized portions of meals, he's doing so much better. His surgical drain tube saw 50ml today. The lowest so far. He needs to get that down to under 25ml. I'm hopeful that he can go home before Monday comes around.

N's yong tau foo added on to the dinner box of brown rice, lean pork and nai bai.