Tuesday, January 31, 2023

华艺节 :: 'ART' by Godot Theatre Company


We're all familiar with 'ART' by French playwright Yasmina Reza. It's an observation about the complexities of friendship between three men, sparked by a heated discussion over the purchase of a piece of art, and if this piece is worth the price paid. Ultimately, it's about how much friendship is worth to you, and its intrinsic value. I was pleased to watch a production of it staged by Taiwan's Godot Theatre Company (果陀劇場) at Esplanade's Huayi Festival.

Directed by the Company's Artistic Director Liang Chi-Ming, this production stars popular celebrities Pu Hsueh-Liang (卜學亮), Chu Chung Heng (屈中恆) and Tseng Kuo Chen (曾國城). They took the respective roles as Marc (the supposed antagonist), Serge (the buyer of the painting) and Yvan (the supposed pacifist). But the English names have been changed to Chinese names. The blurb (written in simplified Chinese for the Singapore audience) explained,

“友谊”到底为何物?都是ART惹的祸! 

是艺术?还是异数?   

《ART》跟艺术无关,跟朋友有关。 

你有没有朋友?我是说“真正的朋友” 

你在朋友眼中是什么样子?

I giggled quite a bit. WHAT IS ART ANYWAY. Recalling the recent works seen at ART SG, that 'lone boot stepping on a yellow balloon' placed on the floor boggled my mind. Did you see that boot? Whyyy. Hahaha. I wonder who bought the New York-based Taiwanese Huang Benrei's (黃本蕊)  fibreglass and stainless steel giant Yellow Rabbit (Nini 尼尼) simply titled 'Rainy Days Variation'. That was a really cheerful piece.

The matinee show included a birthday celebration for Tseng Kuo Chen. They said that it was his 55th birthday, and it felt apt to celebrate it since their three shows in Singapore were their 55th, 56th and 57th show. So I watched the final show, hence, the birthday cake to celebrate Kuo Chen's 55th. Okaaaaay. Ha! Apparently these are Taiwanese celebrities who are also household names in the entertainment circle, and host game shows and act in films and television series. Most in the audience obviously know them. I have seen their names around, but I don't know who they are. 

It's quite a brilliant adaptation by Godot Theatre Company. It was a two-hour and 15 minute performance without intermission. I enjoyed it immensely but, TBH, it was quite long. If they shortened it slightly to two hours that would have been ideal. The Chinese script is clever and full of puns that only Mandarin speakers understand. The humor was lost in the translated surtitles, I felt. It can't be helped. Some things are not able to be translated well to English. 

Monday, January 30, 2023

Pampa Kampana as Parvati-Pampa


Of course I had to read Salman Rushdie's 'A Sackful of Seeds' published in The New Yorker on December 5, 2022. This is an excerpt from his new novel titled 'Victory City' (2023) due to be released in February, or about now since the book's reviews are out. 

(Victory City's reviews here, here, here and here.) 

This is the first stirring I've heard from the author since he was attacked and stabbed at a book event in New York four months ago in August. I don't mind the author's writing, but I'm not keen to read his new book. It's a genre I read, but the plot and such aren't something I'm interested in, and well, the language isn't my preferred sort, which means I can't finish this book in one sitting. Ah well. Luckily for the excerpt, which I happily read. 

This new novel is meant to be an epic, a story of two forgotten kingdoms, of adventure and love and myth. Set in 14th century India, nine-year-old Pampa Kampana becomes the vessel for her namesake goddess. Her tale spans 250 years. The New York Times's review on 27 January, 2022 wrote, 

In “Victory City,” a new novel by Salman Rushdie, a gifted storyteller and poet creates a new civilization through the sheer power of her imagination. Blessed by a goddess, she lives nearly 240 years, long enough to witness the rise and fall of her empire in southern India, but her lasting legacy is an epic poem.  

“All that remains is this city of words,” the poet, Pampa Kampana, writes at the end of her epic, which she buries in a pot as a message for future generations. “Words are the only victors.”  

Framed as the text of a rediscovered medieval Sanskrit epic, “Victory City” is about mythmaking, storytelling and the enduring power of language. It is also a triumphant return to the literary stage for Rushdie, who has been withdrawn from public life for months, recovering from a brutal stabbing while onstage during a cultural event in New York last year.

This excerpt in The New Yorker follows the part of Pampa Kampana's life as she witnessed the mass suicide of her town's womenfolk and her own mother in a giant bonfire, and the exact moment that the goddess Parvati—Pampa taking possession of her voice and sharing the human body. Pampa the human has now become a prophet and a miracle worker. 

Pampa took refuge with a monk for the next nine years. The supposedly philosophical monk wasn't that firm ideologies and morals; he sexually abused her too. But she didn't utter a word. She didn't speak again till nine years later. At age eighteen, Pampa spoke, and advised two brothers Hukka and Bukka Sangama to go to the sacred place where Pampa's mother died, and from a sackful of seeds, they grew a city, people and soldiers.

Coming toward them through the crowd, dressed in an ascetic’s simple saffron wrap and carrying a wooden staff, was Pampa Kampana, with whom they were both in love. There was a fire blazing in her eyes.  

“We built the city,” Hukka said to her. “You said when we had done that we could ask you for your real name.”  

So Pampa Kampana told the brothers her name, and congratulated them. “You’ve done well,” she said. “They just needed someone to whisper their dreams into their ears.”  

Everyone came from a seed, she added. Men planted seeds in women and so forth. But this was different. A whole city, people of all kinds and ages, blooming from the earth on the same day, such flowers have no souls, they don’t know who they are, because the truth is they are nothing. But such truth is unacceptable. It was necessary, she said, to do something to cure the multitude of its unreality. Her solution was fiction. She was making up their lives, their castes, their faiths, how many brothers and sisters they had, and what childhood games they had played, and sending the stories whispering through the streets into the ears that needed to hear them. She was writing the grand narrative of the city, creating its story now that she had created its life. Some of her stories came from her memories of lost Kampili, the slaughtered fathers and the burned mothers; she was trying to bring that place back to life in this place, to bring back the old dead in the newly living, but memory wasn’t enough, there were too many lives to enliven, and so imagination had to take over from the point at which memory failed.  

“My mother abandoned me,” she said, “but I will be the mother of them all.”

Saturday, January 28, 2023

吃一點兒賀年小食


N's aunt made kuih kapit in the old-school way over a traditional charcoal stove. OMG. I was allocated one giant tin (that big Milo tin). I was soooo thrilled. I don't like love letters rolled up. I like them folded flat like these. And I really prefer the ones done at home with less sugar. 

It's ridiculously hard to find these desserts and pastries done at home nowadays. It is a lot of effort to make them, and many of us just can't be bothered I suppose. Well, I don't have the required skills or talent to do these. I can probably make them, but they'd taste like crap. I don't buy kuih kapit from any random store. Unless it's an independent store, and they guarantee that the batches churned out are small and has strict quality control. 

I'm glad that not many people would gift me snacks because they now know that I don't want them and I don't eat them. I had to be really rude about it in order to stop the avalanche of unwanted snacks arriving at the door. The biggest problem is, these kind gift-givers give for the sake of giving; they don't know what I want to eat or like to eat, then they anyhow assume, and of course they end up giving me items that I don't want. 

Of course I snacked this Lunar New Year! I'm into savory items, not sweet things. Hurhurhur. And I very much prefer to buy my own snacks. I like savory and spicy, but I'm not into spicy shrimp rolls and such. Not fond of arrowroot chips either. No nian gao (glutinous sticky brown new year cake) please, bak kwa is a big no-no. It's not really for health reasons that the man and I don't eat them. We don't like the taste too these things. Although spicy shrimp rolls are the man's kryptonite.

I'm not unopposed to pineapple tarts, but everyone makes them differently. Your version of good pineapple tarts might not be my version of it. I prefer them to come as balls, not open-faced tarts. As far as commercial pineapple tarts go, this year, I bought myself a jar from Patissier Woo. The little golden balls are really quite tasty. Their dark chocolate sea salt sables are also wonderful because they go big on the salt and chocolate and low on the sugar. The sables contain the exact ratio of flavour profiles I like. The jars aren't big either, so they're perfect for me. 20 pineapple tarts in a jar lasted me for two weeks. 

My all-time favorite items are prawn crackers and belinjo crackers (or spicy emping). Haha. Savory and crunchy. I would eat them plain, but they're best eaten with spicy sambal belachan. Mmmmm. I've eaten so much prawn crackers and belinjo this season. Shiok.

Visited the friends and my godson. He's only three weeks old, so I wasn't keen to like carry him or whatever. He's not an item or a bag to be passed around to be inspected. He's still fragile and vulnerable to viruses, so best not to be all kissy-huggy. Instead, I went to hug a jar of prawn crackers and monopolised it. Hahaha. The friends stocked up a jar from Rasa Sayang. This shop does such good kueh lapis and superb prawn crackers. I did pour out a portion into a bowl to eat lah, and not leave the jar open the whole time — gotta be hygienic!

Friday, January 27, 2023

Our Walk Was Rained Out, So We Had Coffee


When the non-stop rains didn't allow us to do a 7.30am morning walk at the Botanics, we simply shifted the format to a 9am coffee meet at S's welcoming dining table. We stopped her from prepping any food for us. She was already prepping loads of things to host another group of humans in the afternoon. 

We merrily took two Nespresso capsules each. NO BREAKFAST NEEDED. No need carbs or whatever. There were plenty of snacks on the table if we wanted. I couldn't resist the prawn crackers with sambal belachan. OMG> they were savory and sooooo tasty. M happily took a bowl of the just-cooked red bean soup, but I had no interest in it. The homemade crackers were not-too-greasy, and they were totally the vehicle to the belachan. That sambal belachan was everything. 

It was a very precious morning catching up with the ladies. Definitely not schmoozing. None to be done when we know one another well, and we're in tune with one another's lives and going-ons.

Choya was quite happy chilling out with us. The dreary day meant that she was a bit nervous anticipating thunder. But these rains didn't bring much thunder. So she was happy when so many humans were around to keep her company. She turned on all her charm and greeted EVERYBODY. Ha!

Thursday, January 26, 2023

吃長年菜,願安康,求風調雨順!


早上給小狗穿上雨衣,自己穿了雨鞋,開了傘,帶小狗出去玩。天色灰暗,又是連綿細雨的一天。午時就很不客氣的帶著小狗出現在朋友家黐餐。是薄餅! 我喜歡!我一點兒也沒不好意思,給自己包了五條、全吃了。

飯後下午就沒有應酬了。回家!難得有三天的公共假期,當然會刻意留在家裡休息。不必要的社交,我不會多做。敷衍功夫也不是我擅長做的。當然會有些社交活動還是得完成的,那種,往往都是我重視的。

中午老公也和朋友吃了一頓豐富的印度餐,所以晚餐我們都要吃簡單點兒。冰箱裡已備有材料。就煮了一鍋簡單的排骨白菜湯。鍋裏邊當然不可缺少干貝乾蠔乾魷魚韻味。已有幾個月沒有煮湯了。嘻嘻。但這熬湯的技巧我是不會忘記的。#ImpieCooks2023

這鍋不是藥材湯,所以只用了一個半小時就有湯喝了。老公選擇不加麵條或糙米飯。我給他添了豆腐。自己那碗加了面。老公很厲害,不知從哪兒學來的,順便巴結一下,說,“新年喝了老婆熬的湯才是新年啊!” 🙄

這過年長命雨已下了五天了,沒怎麼停過。今年的水兔年真是旺。希望真能旺旺而不是陷入嚴重的經濟不景氣的狀態。雨天喝碗熱湯,肚子溫飽,感覺真好。

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

年初三 :: 玉兔迎春添新象、人逢泰世隨兔躍

這農曆新年假期還是有很多餐廳繼續開門做生意,方便我們找吃的。呵呵。約朋友見面也多了些去處。不是每個人都樂意在家中弄個‘開放日’。和比較好的閨蜜當然能在家中喝杯咖啡,但若有其他約會得趕去,那約在小咖啡店是最佳的。

好開心能和 V 喝杯咖啡和一杯Prosecco,吃點布拉塔芝士和切薄的帕爾瑪火腿。她回國的那個星期剛好是我一連三天都得到醫療所做半天的 annual medical,不能碰酒精,少喝咖啡,晚上禁食什麼的、我騰不出時間和任何人吃飯,就拖到今天咯。幸好是今天見面。晚上得赴約吃一頓不能再推辭的飯局。還好有 V 的微笑大大減輕了這季節的壓力,緩和了繃緊的心情。

有些敷衍的活動是要做的、還是有這麼一餐是不能避的。就是和公婆在新年頭三天吃頓飯。我已狡猾地躲過了參與團圓飯,已經沒人敢說麼了。所以得找個不生氣的日子吃這頓飯。畢竟是新年,要生財,少生氣,對吧?

這一餐一定讓小狗陪伴。她是柴犬啊,譯音‘財’嘛,也有‘全’,就‘財全’咯!😂 這一餐不要吃什麼新年套餐、不要弄什麼傳統新式撈起。選擇了支持朋友經營的 GRUB Bistro,吃簡單的西餐。碰巧遇見了一群朋友也在這兒用餐。恰好是真正的朋友,我很樂意過去和她們打招呼。平時也會和她們見面,所以今晚碰面是件開心的事。

又是雨天,氣溫涼、坐外邊挺舒服的。既然沒有人想喝紅酒,那就沒order整瓶、自己兩杯紅酒足夠了。不敢喝太多。老公選擇了一份椒鹽炸魷魚和一碟挺開胃的海南雞沙拉。我要了盤凱撒沙拉。多吃菜好呀。呵呵。

Tuesday, January 24, 2023

年初二 :: 新春福兔送吉祥、兔躍長天爭春暖


The man as lamenting about blowing 3s mostly on the Lumen. He would do 2s if he ate early enough and skip the refined carbs and sugar. So I looked at his food log. I generally don't do it, but I wanted to see what he was missing or doing too much of. He knows that he has to be disciplined about dinner timings and not having too much alcohol. But if he really wants to blow 2s consistently, he needs to eat even cleaner. 

For dinner that night, we didn't feel like going out. Many places would be crowded and annoying, and we didn't want to leave Smol Girl at home. We couldn't deal with any more dong-dong-chiang restaurant music. I could cook, but I was a tad lazy. So I assembled dinner for us. 

Opened up a pack of mixed beans and bulgur. I did a bean mix with sesame miso dressing, and tossed up an easy bulgur salad. I didn't bother to 'cook' any fish. Went to the restaurants and found tamago, and yellowtail and red snapper sashimi chunks, and negitoro sushi. Even bought super freshly boiled Tiger prawns as extra protein for the man. Due to my allergies, I cannot cook shellfish at home or have raw shellfish in the fridge. The man can only buy ready-to-eat items or frozen cooked shellfish to store in the freezer.

I ate most of the negitoro sushi. The man had one piece. Hahaha. He definitely can't have much sushi anymore, because of the rice. Well, his carbs in this meal were found in the beans and grains. I boiled up udon for myself to go with the meal. This entire meal was delicious — low sugar, low salt and low carbs. Perfect. Loads of fish. 就年年有餘吧.

The next morning, the man blew a 1 on the Lumen. He was thrilled. He has never blown a 1 since the last week of November 2022, till today.

Monday, January 23, 2023

年初一 :: 喜對良宵玩玉兔、笑同勝友賞新春


I had earlier bought a few boxes of mikan and dekopon as gifts for some friends. Then realized I didn't get any for myself. I supposed I need to have a box of mandarin oranges at home in case visiting has to be done. My usual fruit seller ordered me to pick up two boxes on the last day of the Tiger. What I didn't realise was, she reserved two boxes of Red Beauty (红美人) for me. It's a hybrid of tangerine and orange. This hybrid from Ningbo is one of China's better quality exports of Mandarin oranges. I dunno why, but it seems to be extra hot property this year. Why ah?  

Had to make the obligatory and kinda mandatory visit to the man's parents in the afternoon (they're not morning people), and brought two Red Beauty over. The MIL definitely didn't know anything about mandarin oranges, so she didn't know what these were, except that they were packed really nicely. Hahahah. I don't particularly care, but if giving these out means that people will eat them instead of throwing them away or letting them rot as the days go by, then it makes more sense to gift these oranges rather than buy shitty ones in the name of adhering to a tradition that stinks of wastefulness.

At 6pm, I retreated back home for a glass of whisky. It was a rather happy day. The morning stroll by the beach in the sun and breeze before the rainclouds rolled in was such balm for the soul. We ordered loads of food from our all-time favorite Gokul; it provided us with such a delicious lunch. Smol Girl was very pleased that she wasn't left alone this rainy Day 1 of the Lunar Year of the Rabbit. 

Sunday, January 22, 2023

除夕 :: 門戶臨風迎春入,高樓觸月接兔歸

I respectfully declined the invitation to the in-laws' reunion dinner on Lunar New Year Eve. It wasn't a venue that accommodated pets. And I was all ready to use Smol Girl as an excuse not to go. But I didn't say that, I literally said, "I'm not coming to this dinner. Thank you for the invitation." Nobody dared to continue the conversation. Over the years, I've made it clear that I'm not into these dinners and gatherings. I dread them. They don't make me feel energized or gladsome at the end of it; I feel drained, exhausted and resentful. 

The pandemic lockdowns and restrictions on gatherings were a boon to me. This year, I'm continuing to eschew all 'obligatory' (family or otherwise) social events. I'M DONE. SO DONE. They'll just have to understand that some people really dislike these obligations. Also, I'm hugely disinterested in the food. Some people would rather deal with my black face at these dinners than to have me skip it. The hypocrisy. I refuse to play ball. The moment I put my foot down and declined to attend the 'reunion' dinner (which didn't include Smol Girl), this huge weight lifted off of my head. I felt unburdened, and immensely relieved. 

The weather gods were in my favor too. It's been an extra wet week because a monsoon surge is expected in the region this period. This week, the rains are coming in at all hours, especially lashing in the afternoons. In comparison to the past three months, the thunder hasn't been too bad. I have no wish to leave the girl alone at home while I head out to dinner. If I curb my own socials in the evenings, then hell, no way am I going for this reunion dinner and return to bloodied floors and doors, and shredded paws. I didn't wish to sedate her with maximum dosage of Gabapentin while I attended a dinner that I didn't care for. Hello, PRIORITIES, PLEASE. 其中的利害關係輕重,我不多說、你們都懂。

年三十晚的心情是如此平靜。還有餘力給自己做份簡單的晚餐 — とても簡単なメニュー、釜玉うどん, たっぷり春キャベツと豚の生姜焼き. 預備材料和煮炒時間一點兒也不長。洗刷清理鍋和碗碟也輕鬆。這一份清靜太難得了。這就是進入記憶裡另一個很愉快的一頓年夜飯。#ImpieCooks2023

Friday, January 20, 2023

The Gold Star Reviews of 'Spare'

The reason why I read 'Spare' (January 2023) was not because I was so interested in Prince Harry's life or any of the going-ons in the British monarchy. Borrowed it from a friend who bought it; I sped-read it and promptly returned it the next day. I read it because of the book's ghostwriter J.R. Moehringer. His name doesn't appear publicly on any copy of 'Spare' and the memoir is sole attributed to Prince Harry. (More about the ghostwriter for 'Spare' here, here and here.)

I don't care about the key takeaways from the book. The reviews do a great job of summarising them. I'm not that keen in his life and tribulations. He's not my friend or anyone I ought to be concerned with. I read it very very quickly because it wasn't worth my time to delve into it like a criticism. Now what got my full attention were the reviews of the book. Those were gold, and in fact, much better than the book itself. Ha! The Guardian's Clea Skopeliti collated opinions from eight readers of the paper who have read the book and reminded readers about all our differing opinions, 

‘The monarchy’s a laughing stock’: readers react to Prince Harry’s Spare Views range from sympathy for the Sussexes in light of treatment by royals and tabloids, to regarding them as being ‘as entitled as the others’.

Facts? Memoir? I read it like it's fiction. If a book can't even fact-check on whereabouts and what Meghan wore on their first date, or when the Nintendo was released versus a Playstation, then how much can one trust a book. How much can one trust anyone's account, what more a celebrity's viewpoint? Prince Harry isn't just any celebrity. He grew up extremely privileged, and I doubt his world view is something commoner-me can understand. 

I don't know how his tell-all book is received by media outlets on both sides of the pond. I don't suppose it matters whether it's American or British media. If they're going to pan his book, they will. British media might be more peeved though, especially after what Prince Harry has done 'to' and 'against' them. 

The New York Times's Alexandra Jacobs titled their January 10, 2023 review, 'Prince Harry Learns to Cry, and Takes No Prisoners, in ‘Spare’ At once emotional and embittered, the royal memoir is mired in a paradox: drawing endless attention in an effort to renounce fame.' 

And yet when his father advises of the unrelenting and often racist press coverage of Harry’s union to Meghan — “Don’t read it, darling boy” — it’s difficult not to agree. The prince claims to have a spotty memory — “a defense mechanism, most likely” — but doesn’t appear to have forgotten a single line ever printed about him and his wife, and the last section of his tell-all degenerates into a tiresome back-and-forth about who’s leaking what and why. Maybe a little more Faulkner and less Fleet Street would be helpful here?

Still bitter over the late author Hilary Mantel, unnamed here, comparing the royal family to pandas — “uniquely barbarous” and dehumanizing, he writes, while admitting “we did live in a zoo” — Harry then turns right around and calls three courtiers the Bee, the Fly and the Wasp. He seems both driven mad by “the buzz,” as the royals’ inexhaustible chronicler Tina Brown would call it, and constitutionally unable to stop drumming it up.

For all that the Sussexes try to escape from, they're definitely not living a low-key life. It's not about the lifestyle, it's about what and how they choose to speak to the media, and the topics they espouse on. An entire Netflix series about their lives, the split from the Royal Family, and then a book isn't exactly low-key. It tells me that there's a pressing need to tell the world their story. And I'm like, is it that important? Is it therapy? At the end of the day, it's a family feud. Just walk away and be done with it. They have spoken their piece. People will take sides. Why rake everyone through the coals? It wouldn't do anyone any good, isn't it?

My favorite review came from The New Yorker's Rebecca Mead. She wrote a wonderful piece titled 'The Haunting of Prince Harry' published on January 13, 2023. She gave some credit to the ghostwriter and sees what he tried to do with the memoir. She likens Prince Harry to a Shakespearean ghost, and found many similarities to certain scenes in Shakespearean plays, courtesy of the ghostwriter. 

Moehringer has also bestowed upon Harry the legacy that his father was unable to force on him: a felicitous familiarity with the British literary canon. The language of Shakespeare rings in his sentences. Those wanton journalists who publish falsehoods or half-truths? They treat the royals as insects: “What fun, to pluck their wings,” Harry writes, in an echo of “King Lear,” a play about the fragility of kingly authority. During his military training as a forward air controller, a role in which he guided the flights and firepower of pilots from an earthbound station, Harry describes the release of bombs as “spirits melting into air”—a phrase drawn from “The Tempest,” a play about a duke in exile across the water. Elevating flourishes like these give readers—perhaps British ones in particular—a shiver of recognition, as if the chords of “Jerusalem” were being struck on a church organ. But they also remind those readers of the necessary literary artifice at work in the enterprise of “Spare,” as Moehringer shapes Harry’s memories and obsessions, traumas and bugbears, into a coherent narrative: the peerless ghostwriter giving voice to the Shakespeareless prince.

Moehringer has fashioned the Duke of Sussex’s life story into a tight three-act drama, consisting of his occasionally wayward youth; his decade of military service, which included two tours of duty in Afghanistan; and his relationship with Meghan. Throughout, there are numerous bombshells, which—thanks to the o’er hasty publication of the book’s Spanish edition—did not so much melt into air as materialize into clickbait.

I couldn't stop giggling at the Rebecca Mead's words. J.R. Moehringer lent the book such literary flair. I'm sure Prince Harry is witty, and Prince William and King Charles gave him much ammunition, but it took a ghostwriter to see beyond Prince Harry's hurt and gave it shape and coherence. 

It’s not clear that even now, having authored a book, Harry entirely understands what a book is; when challenged by Tom Bradby about his decision to reveal private conversations after having railed so forcefully about the invasive tactics of the press, Harry replied, “The level of planting and leaking from other members of the family means that in my mind they have written countless books—certainly, millions of words have been dedicated to trying to trash my wife and myself to the point of where I had to leave my country.” Pity the poor ghostwriter who has to hear his craft compared to the spewing verbiage of the media churn—by its commissioning subject, no less. (Man, what a piece of work.) Remarkably, Prince Harry has suggested that he sees the book as an invitation to reconciliation, addressed to his father and brother—a way of speaking to them publicly when all his efforts to address them privately have failed to persuade. “Spare” is, you might say, Prince Harry’s “Mousetrap”—a literary device intended to catch the conscience of the King, and the King after him.

Thursday, January 19, 2023

What A Tenderloin!


Had a wonderful night of good food and wine, and great conversation at the friends'. They were traveling over Christmas and the New Year, so it was lovely gathering for a chat before everyone flies out again on work trips. I was trying to avoid going over for dinner because I know N always cooks up a storm and is so considerate to guests. I don't want to put her out. Some people really love hosting home parties for friends, and she's one of those who also does it fabulously. I'm ever-grateful when friends have us over because it's really a lot of effort lah. 

The friends decided that champagne was still required since we were just two weeks into the year. N presented this superb appetizer board. She added in falafels and smoked trout and oysters. She threw in artichokes too because I loved those. 

She totally outdid herself with the main. I was highly skeptical when she said "an easy one-dish simple dinner". Knowing N, I knew she might pull some stunt. I was really hoping for mac and cheese. That would be quite delightful. Hahahahah. She found some gigantic slab of 2-kg tenderloin and grilled it. GOSH! It's very challenging to grill a lean tenderloin; much easier to sear it on the stove. Ribeyes are kinder to home cooks. But she did it anyway. So there was tenderloin beautifully grilled pink in the center. There were roasted potatoes. Mmmmm. There were sides of zucchini, tomatoes and halloumi. 

To be very honest, when homecooked food is good, paired with moderate levels of alcohol, hanging out at home is sometimes very enjoyable, over going out to restaurants. This is also very welcome for us because our floofs are happier at home lounging around. At least those floors are clean, and they roll around wherever and whenever they want. Choya is quite a terror here now. She knows she can get away with anything when it comes to Uncle B and Aunty N. LOL

Wednesday, January 18, 2023

ART SG 2023


I couldn't be more pleased to spend an afternoon at ART SG. It was billed as "Southeast Asia's largest art fair", and it didn't disappoint. Spanning two floors, there were many many galleries from all over the region, and the global cities were well-represented, along with their stable of artists. Contemporary art, mainly, of course. Many pieces looked great in the lobbies of buildings or if your house has a spacious foyer and plenty of wall space. 

Unfortunately the purchase of art is one of those things that I've decided not to adopt. I don't want the accompanying baggage of the social circle or the houses/apartments used to display these pieces. It's a lifestyle and way of living that I don't want. Neither do I want to be a secret collector/investor and squirrel them away in storage rooms and let them go at the right prices. I'll simply be part of an audience, and study a little more about an artist if I should like his/her vision, creative vibes and final creations. Purely theoretical.

I skipped the VIP Preview evening because, well, I wasn't keen to see acquaintances and I didn't want to schmooze. I needed to spend some time with the dog that night because she went to play school all day. I was glad that J asked if I wanted to join her in the day for a browse at the fair. That would be awesome. It was a chance to see her, have a chat and look through lovely artworks together. The afternoon wasn't as crowded as the preview night, and there was plenty of space to browse and stroll. It was also ME-TIME. Yay!

The contemporary artworks held a wide spectrum of medium, genre and methodology. It was a feast for the eyes and such a treat for the senses. There're illustrations, digital art, ink paintings, sculptures, installations, et cetera. We have Yayoi Kusama's big-ish 'Flowers That Bloom Now' (2017) in stainless steel and urethane paint, as well as Takashi Murakami's large 'Flower Parent and Child' (2022) in fibreglass reinforced plastic.

Giggled so hard at Eslite Gallery's prominent push of BenRei Huang (黃本蕊). This is my first view of her work. She worked primarily as a children's book illustrator before turning to creating paintings and 3D work. She has chosen to incorporate the bunny NiNi in all her works. Her rabbits might just be the runaway hit of the whole fair. They're ridiculously cute, decently priced, and many pieces have been sold. 

Leiko Ikemura's corner. 

I didn't actually go through the list of exhibiting galleries or artists. While I might have heard of them, I wouldn't know their works in detail unless I like them. I only took a quick glance at the list; I wanted to be surprised. I found a few new artists whose works I would go read up more about and be familiar with them. I'm less keen on sculptures, 3D pieces and installations. I could easily knock those over. LOL I very much prefer paintings or illustrations. Things on the wall tend to be out of my way and can be protected from my clumsiness. 

I really liked Leiko Ikemura and I was soooo happy to stumble upon her works at the fair and lingered a little to admire them. I was rather taken with Yuichi Hirako's pieces at the fair. I'm fascinated with his concepts — plants for heads, and the overflowing flora in interiors, asking audiences to reconsider our relationships with nature. Well, I also really like the black cats in his paintings. 

I was very disciplined. I only had ONE glass of champagne. Ruinart was the official brand, and its blanc de blancs held court. (Although I couldn't help grinning at 'Ruin-art'. Come on, all of us thought it. 🫠) I was so pleased that J invited me out. Otherwise I'd have totally given this a miss, and it would have been such a loss because art is balm to my soul. I'm inspired by art in so many different ways. The afternoon was much much needed.  

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

我最鍾意食嘅餐肉蛋飯!


I did too much schmoozing in the morning and at lunch. I was exhausted and didn't want to talk to anyone for the rest of the day. Didn't even really talk to the man. I read and read till I fell asleep and woke up at 6.30pm. I asked to eat in. A simple fuss-free meal. Days like this, I look for comfort food. I was gonna do a sunny-side up for the Smol Girl, so I might as well prep something simple for myself. #ImpieCooks2023

The man was most keen to try out his newly bought pack of BamNut Noodles. He passed on the seasoning provided in the box and opted to do his own. He likes that Laoganma (老干妈) chilli oil. He minced a ton of garlic to make sauce with it, and tossed the boiled noodles in them. He ate the noodles with some leftover grilled chicken and cabbage, and asked for a sunny-side up with it. He loved the noodles and how it all tasted in a bowl. Hahaha. 

I didn't ask him to cook my share. I had a craving that I needed to satisfy and it didn't involve noodles. Although I took a bite to try it. The texture was pretty okay, I suppose. But I'm not big on ramen and such, so I don't like the noodles or what it's made of. It should taste fine if you use the sauces you like. I dislike this Laoganma and chilli oil in general. This would be the man's dinner, not mine.

Me? Of course I had spam and rice + a sunny-side up egg. Hahahah. 我最鍾意嘅餐肉蛋飯! 好耐都冇食啦. No restaurant can do this dish as well as we can do it at home, unless the restaurant is happy to cater to exactly what we want. It's such a 'cheap' dish that restaurants won't even offer it nowadays. Smol Girl was excited by all the food smells. And in her usual polite way, waited to see what foods she would be allocated. Heh. She was thrilled that got an egg on top of her raw meats and bone. 

Monday, January 16, 2023

东北沈阳之艳粉街


Finally our National Library stocked the English translation of Shuang Xuetao's 'Rouge Street: Three Novellas'. This is translated by Jeremy Tiang and published in English in April 2022. 《艳粉街 : 三部中篇小说》,双雪涛著,程异译.   

But gosh, it took soooo long even for me to get the digital copy to read. I was third in the queue and the readers ahead sure took their time. At least I managed to get my hands on the book before 2022 came to a close. Dohhhhh. (Reviews hereherehere and here.)

I have been meaning to read this writer's books, but never got around to it. So I was thrilled to read his stories in English first before I seek them out in Chinese. The 39-year-old author draws upon his childhood experiences growing up in Northeast China, in Shengyang, Liaoning Province. I read Jing Tsu's (石静远) book review in Chinese for NYT first before I read the book.

中国作家双雪涛的三部中篇小说集《艳粉街》中的人物大多都清楚地知道,每天的忙碌打拼无非就是一场精心的骗局。这就是他们在沈阳郊区的生活。这是一个拥有750万人口的工业中心,有时被称为中国的“锈带”。在1990年代的经济转型中,这里受到了粗暴的对待,那些50年代的苏联式国有企业——煤炭、纺织和钢铁工厂——遭到了改造。对许多工人来说,这种变化本身就是一种骗局,打破了共产主义制度下被称为“铁饭碗”的终身就业。 

本书是双雪涛的作品首次译为英文——出自敏锐的译者程异之手——书名取自他熟悉的一个破败社区。他讲述了被中国经济奇迹抛下的一群有趣的人物。他们挣扎着从黯淡的现实中走出来,寻找光明,这种努力有时带有宗教色彩:一个女人寻找办法来报答一个在文化大革命期间救了她父亲一命的陌生人;一个年轻的主人公听从一个疯子的预言,解开了一个谋杀之谜;一名潦倒的工人帮助一个年轻的理想主义者实现梦想。

除此之外,艳粉街并不是一个彬彬有礼或充满希望的地方。它靠的是个人恩怨和世仇,而不是公正的审判。妇女和儿童经常遭到殴打,她们的丈夫和父亲既是暴力的发起者,也是受害者。双雪涛的描写丝毫不留情面,书中不乏理所当然的残酷、神秘与阴谋、意想不到的幽默以及为个人荣誉而做出的微小但有意义的举动,读者踏入这个世界,必定会有很多收获。

Magdalene Thien wrote a lengthy foreword, delving into Shuang Xuetao's use of prose, language, his created characters and the background/years they live in. 

Yanfen Street,  as Shuang brings it to life, has a clarity that allows his characters to be seen in their full dimensions. The ground shifts beneath them; rising and falling force them into new perspectives. Only when the children in "Bright Hall" sink to the bottom of the lake do they see the foundation of their era — knowledge that, if they are fortunate, they will bring with them back to the surface.

Set in Mao's China, these three novellas are titled 'The Aeronaut''Bright Hall', and 'Moses on the Plain'. They plod along slow, like proletariat films set in the 1980s or 1990s streaming on MUBI. The details were very in-depth. Drinking features very heavily in the book, presumably the choice of poison is baijiu

In 'The Aeronaut', we literally hear about every connection in the family and the state of the relationships from the fathers to the sons. That was set against the backdrop of the Cultural Revolution that killed their fathers' spirit. The children turn out remarkably different, even in these harsh circumstances. 

'Bright Hall' isn't such a cheerful place after all. It tells of two abandoned children, let down by adults supposedly responsible for them. It also raised the touchy topic of religion, and Christianity. There's a Pastor Lin. There's mention of a little girl Gooseberry knowing the story of Jonah and the Whale, as well as Abraham and Isaac, and Cain and Abel. Some of the puns get lost in translation, methinks. Say, in 'Bright Hall', there's this part that I'm unable to translate the names into Chinese,

Two little girls, maybe three or four years younger than me, were building a snowman in the field ahead of me. I cleared my throat.

—How do I get to Bright Hall?

The  taller girl glanced at me. —What?

—Bright Hall.

—Bride Hall? Aren't you too young to be getting married?

The other girl laughed. I probably looked a bit silly, all sweaty and laden down. 

'Moses on the Plain' is narrated by a few characters whose lives mingle and they know each other as neighbors. A serial murder case tied them all together, and they had history stretching back to the Cultural Revolution too. At the end of the day, the story is really about the feud of the parents' generation, and the two characters at the end of the story — police offer Zhuang Shu, and his childhood friend Li Fei.

I'm glad I took my time in reading this book. It's worth lingering over. I enjoyed the stories, and most of all, I really admire Jeremy Tiang's translation. It's nuanced, concise and totally reflected the words of the author, including complementing the original phrasing and pace. 

How you interpret the stories, is really a matter for the Chinese diaspora to discuss. Everyone perceives political and social commentary differently. I couldn't empathize with what went on, but I'm glad that fate didn't have me be born in that era and in China, and in that particular province and town. China is so damn big that it matters where you were born, where you spent your childhood and where you spend your adulthood. They're starkly different and you'll be moulded according to what leaves the deepest impression during your formative years. 

Friday, January 13, 2023

Lobster Linguine with the BFF & L

The BFF's trip home was rather delayed, no thanks to the New Year's Day fiasco at Manila airport which derailed her entire itinerary. Now that she's back and before she flies out again, I grabbed her out to mark the new year together. Happiness is catching up over lunch on a quiet day at D.O.P with the BFF and L.

Didn't go overboard with the food. Ordered only three items — a salad, smoked scamorza with mushrooms, and a lobster linguine to share. Nobody could eat that much at lunch, and sharing the food makes it all easy. Had a few drinks though. Heh. I was in the mood for prosecco, but not my dining companions. They were very happy that the restaurant offers freshly squeezed juice, and opted for that. 

We also had gifts to pass to each other. Or rather I had loads of extra gifts to off-load to the BFF because I keep getting gifts that I don't want and I asked if the BFF wanted to adopt them. Never give me candles. YET. A ton of candles still land in my lap. WHYYYYYY. Which part of candles, scents, allergies and anaphylactic reactions do people not understand? I thought I had made it very clear. Dohhhh.. Anyway the BFF loves candles; she gets all that I can't keep at home. L had also thoughtfully got a soft toy for Choya, and had requested for the Smol Girl to come along to lunch. 

The BFF and I was pleased to be able to check in with L to see how she's doing. We haven't heard from her since October, so we wanted to talk to her. L isn't the best with text messages and does better with IRL convos and meets. We're happy that we found a date to meet. Importantly, we want L to know that we care.

Thursday, January 12, 2023

'Six Forces That Fuel Friendship'


A friend sent me this article in The Atlantic from June 10, 2022 — 'The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship' written by Julie Beck. The writer is a senior editor at the journal heading the Family section. She created 'The Friendship Files' in 2019; it was a weekly series of interviews distilled into articles that "tells stories of human life through conversations with friends"

The final instalment of the series is the 100th interview the editor published on June 10, 2022 in which she spoke with "two women who were brought together by an extraordinary act of courage"It's titled 'She Wouldn’t Exist if Not for Her Friend’s Family'. I'm not talking about this conversation today.

In this article that is like a summary of the writer's insights about friendship, and finding similarity in topics and in the recurring themes that float up in her 100 interviews with friends, Julie Beck said,

Saying goodbye to this series is bittersweet. These conversations have felt different from any other interviews I’ve done. In them, I’ve not only heard about friendships, but witnessed them in real time—how the friends talk and joke together, how they remind each other of their shared history. I never did a single interview that I didn’t publish; every friendship has a story. I’m so grateful to the hundreds of people who have welcomed me into their relationships. Being trusted with your stories has been one of the greatest honors of my life.

My friend likes this series of interviews done by Julie Beck. She wanted me to check out the neatly categorised factors that sustain friendships or aid in the creation of them. There're many articles discussing about these factors, it's up to you how you want to categorize them or accept these stock since someone else already penned it for you. In this opinion piece about 'The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship', Julie Beck proposed that,

Though every bond evolves in its own way, I have come to believe that there are six forces that help form friendships and maintain them through the years: accumulation, attention, intention, ritual, imagination, and grace.

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All of the forces I’ve mentioned so far—accumulation, attention, intention, ritual, and imagination—are ideals. They’re impossible to fully live up to. Life often gets in the way.

Accumulation : through time and hours spent together, either over a long period in terms of years, or a short intense week of hours. 

Attention : to pay attention to people, to catch the nuances of body language or words as being welcoming or otherwise and have both parties be open to a friendship regardless of age.

Intention : it's like courtship, we gotta make some time and effort to ask after the other person, to extend invites and accept them in return, because no relationship can grow without intention. 

Ritual : a regular schedule of whatever it is that friends do. Cards, gaming, meals, gym, etc. This gets a bit hard if friends don't live in the same city or the same country. 

Imagination : We would have to design our lives so that our friendships play the role we want them to. Too many conventional societies and social norms emphasise 'family' bonds over friendship. You can choose to redefine that.

and Grace : we stop sweating the small stuff. we don't be calculative over who did this and who did more. We forgive each other when one falls short. 

'Accumulation' is a very scary thing for me. I don't fancy spending many hours with friends daily in that sense. I would be exhausted. This sort of frequent contact doesn't work for an introvert like me. This explains why I don't have many friendships with schoolmates from school days. Frequent daily contact doesn't make someone my friend. Also, we didn't plan a murder or execute a heist together, nothing traumatic or remarkable shared that would etch schoolmates in my memories forever. I think my friendships are all built from years of meaningful non-daily regular contact. My colleagues or ex-colleagues aren't my friends either. 

At the end of the day, whether two persons are friends is entirely dependent on their characters and fundamental principles in life. If we don't see eye-to-eye on many things, then it's tough to sustain a friendship, and I'm not talking about whether we like Harry and Meghan or William and Kate. These people don't feature in our lives greatly; if we have a differing view, we simply chat and drop it. But if someone insists on going deep into it, or insists that Donald Trump is wonderful, then my gawwwd, I don't need this juvenile rubbish. 

Friendships are my primary relationships in this life. Not the conventional definition of 'family' ties. This isn't a relationship outlook many understand. I happen to be one of those who do not place priority on these conventional family ties and highly resent it. To that, I've built my own family through friendships, and these friendships have stood the test of time, and various hiccups and milestones. I'm thankful for that. My friends in the outer circle might not place me as priority over family, and they don't need to. And I don't need that. My inner circle of friends do. 

I seek for 'Grace' in my relationships. When I do things for people, I don't tabulate if they can 'return the favor' in future, or I consciously 'rack up brownie points' to have a standing credit with people in order to call in favors. I'll simply do what I can, and not sell a kidney to do so, and be perfectly at ease saying 'no' to requests that I'm not comfortable with.

This friend who sent me the article? She lives in Bangkok. She's a few years older than I am. We've known each other for two decades. Heh. We meet when we can. Otherwise, we're only a text away from each other, and we text often. We converse mainly in Thai because she insists that I have to practice the language, and as a professor of social policy and community development at the university, she's in a perfect position to lecture me about it. She's also one of those who will flag newsworthy topics and send me links to articles that I tend not to have read. Heh.

Wednesday, January 11, 2023

Noodles & Abalone

I like to have noodles to start the year with. I can probably eat noodles for all my meals. Heh. I'm not following any tradition. I just eat what my tastebuds want. I didn't even bother to hunt down any 'best of' dishes at whichever restaurant. I just went to whatever convenient. Got all I wanted in the first week of 2023.

At Chang Korean BBQ at Dempsey, the banchan for the new year week had cockles! Wheeeeee. I do like how they put gochujang and bits of chives, garlic and spring onions atop the blanched cockles. It was so good that I asked for another serving. 

While the table had other items of jigae, I simply wanted naengmyeon and grilled abalone. Chang's grilled abalone comes in a set of four pieces. Very cute. Ordered two portions of that so that I could have four pieces all to myself. Wheeeeeee. The table ordered ribeye and chicken and all from the BBQ menu. The staff grilled them at the side for us. Added an ox tongue; I quite like that. 


The other night, since the man wanted protein in the form of fish, we hopped in for a casual dinner at Matsuya. Their sashimi is decent, and so is their sushi. The man usually opt for sashimi if he doesn't want rice. I get to have cooked items too. 

I was pleased because I could have my soba again. I've been having soba and udon at home too. Might as well continue with this form of carbs. Muahahaha. These are such happy, satisfying 'noodles'. I could just eat them plain with dipping sauce and a ton of spring onions. But I usually have a hard-boiled egg with it. 

I had zaru-soba, grilled abalone and easy pan-seared thin slices of beef yakiniku. Mmmmm. Matsuya's abalone is small, but tasty. Priced as a single piece, it's always served with the liver slathered with mentaiko. I usually ask the chefs to hold the sweet sauce. I'm not fond of it. The man didn't want any abalone, so I just had this one piece. Didn't feel like being too decadent. Oof.

Tuesday, January 10, 2023

To Tanjong Beach We Went!


Had to stop by Tanjong Beach in the new year. It isn't inaccessible to us; in fact, it's pretty near. But I rarely take Choya to Tanjong Beach because I'm lazy. There, I said it. Also, she isn't into swimming in the sea, so that there isn't a pressing reason for me to frequent the area. But this year, I'm going to make it a point to take her there more often. Not to swim, but for her to be able to run freely off-leash on a relatively clean beach. Her recall is steady, and she's sticky to me now, so it isn't an issue to let her run off leash here on week days.

Made a beach date with Ryo and Tomo on a not crowded Monday morning. It was serendipitous that we ran into Truffles, Pita and Freckles too. The dogs had a fun time together. Tomo was beyond THRILLED. The silly boy! He totally entertained himself running up and down the beach, swimming and saying hello to every dog around. He's quite the social butterfly. Ryo decided that every other floof on the beach was okay except for this overenthusiastic Jack Russell. Hurhurhur. He had some fun chilling out and swimming too. 

Ryo's mama was so sweet. She brought along her body board for Choya. So I plonked her up there and off we went into the water. It was Choya's first time on a body board. She could balance of course. She does balancing drills at home anyway on silicone balls and plates to exercise her hind legs. 

I don't know what she thought of being 'on' the water in this manner. Hahaha. She wasn't keen on going across to the small strip of beach. So we simply stayed in the water. At some point, she decided she had enough. She jumped off the board and made a beeline to shore like a champ. She literally sprinted back. The life vest gave her extra buoyancy or something and she used that to her advantage. Smol Girl can swim, and she's an excellent swimmer. 

Of course Choya wasn't interested in socializing after the first few sprints with the floofs. She strolled around and sniffed the air. She found a shady corner in the sand, dug a hole and plonked herself in it, and snoozed. #winning I watched her closely to make sure that she didn't ingest sea water or lick too much sand off of her paws or her body. Both are bad news to her GI tract. You do not want to have to end up being at the vet clinic two days after a fun beach outing. 

It was such lovely weather this morning. Cloudy and breezy, and the sun broke through at times. All of us could feel the weather patterns shift, and it's heating up, and we want to enjoy the last bits of a cooler Singapore before it all goes away next week. When you live in a small apartment and you have a dog who loves the outdoors and toilets on grass, you become very sensitive to weather patterns and learn to decipher the NEA weather map. LOL

2.5 hours at the beach simply flew by. I totally enjoyed myself too! Well, that's also because I was all covered up in a UV rash guard, sunglasses and a sun hat, plus a ton of sunblock slathered on the face and on the body. It was so very good catching up with like-minded friends and fellow dog-mamas. 

Monday, January 09, 2023

The Length of Our Lifespans

I didn't know what to expect when I opened up Nikki Erlick's debut novel 'The Measure' (June 2022). It was pretty decent as an audiobook, but it was soooo promising by Chapter 3 that I had to try looking for an e-book. The moment I saw that NLB had 3/14 digital copies available, I immediately borrowed it to read on a screen.

Nobody knew what was going on, not till later. The boxes held a piece of string, what seemed like ordinary threads, its length representing the respective individual's human lifespan. I was blown away by the author's vision and ideals for this book. It's got such a brilliant premise and storyline. I loved it. It threads beautifully and easily between sci-fi and apocalyptic doom. (Reviews herehere and here.) 

One March morning, small maybe-wooden dark brown boxes 3-inches wide, 6-inches deep arrived at everyone's doorstep, or shelter or bedside. To everybody across the world. All aged above 21 received a box. And inscribed on everyone box was a simple, yet cryptic message, written in the native tongue of its recipient: The measure of your life lies within. 

Within each box was a single string, initially hidden by a silvery white piece of delicate fabric, so even those who lifted the lid would think twice before looking at what lay underneath. As if the box itself were warning you, trying to protect you from your own childish impulse to immediately tear away the wrapping. As if the box were asking you to pause, to truly contemplate your next move. Because that one could never be undone. 

Scientists dissected the boxes. These seemingly common threads couldn't be cut, even by the sharpest tools. Researchers found out that those with long strings had curable ailments, those with short strings would die soon. It changes everything. "Something this monumental cannot be contained." 

The strings are conclusively real and you no longer simply decide whether to open the box to know or not. Once you know your string length, it isn't just about personal choices anymore. Soon, society divides itself into 'long-stringers' and 'short-stringers'. The corporate world demands factual verification of your string. Banks, corporate companies change they way they hire and lend. 

The book is narrated from the perspectives of eight different characters. Nina and her girlfriend Maura who got different string lengths, architect Ben who has a short string but didn't want to burden his family, and his wife writer Amie who wants to continue her passion for literature regardless, Hank, a doctor who wants to fight death, manipulative political and Presidential candidate Anthony, army hopefuls Jack and his roommate and best friend Javier

As we follow the journey of these eight characters through the years, we share their pain and joy. We watch them decide on how they would live their lives, strings notwithstanding. As the world approaches almost a decade of life with these strings, people have made their peace with it. There were deaths, there was closure. We feel the closure as the book ends with Nina and her choices and how she has chosen to live the next half of her long-stringed life. How would we have chosen? How would we have reacted if something this huge comes to us as a revelation? Lots to mull over.

Some ultimately felt grateful for the boxes, for the change to say goodbye, to never regret the last words uttered. Others found comfort in the strings' uncanny power, enabling them to believe that the lives of their short-string loved ones were not, in fact, cut short. They were just as long as they were meant to be, since the moment they were born and the length of their string was seemingly determined. It made losing them somehow easier to accept, trusting that nothing could have changed the ending, that their deaths did not hinge upon any particular decisions they made, what they did or didn't do. Because of the strings, there was no need to wonder what might have happened if they had lived in a different city, or eaten different foods, or driven a different route home. The loss still hurt, of course, still didn't make sense, but it was almost a relief not to be hounded by what-ifs. Their lives were simply the length that they were always going to be. 

Saturday, January 07, 2023

Decent Som Tam at Warm Up Cafe!


Decent Thai food in an accessible venue with a sheltered al fresco area that takes dogs? I'm there. I suppose Warm Up Cafe got their inspiration from the original party joint in Chiang Mai. I don't know about the owners or chefs or whatever. But I do know that their original outlet at Mackenzie Road went through a renovation and rebranding; this one doesn’t take dogs. Then they opened up a second outlet at The Star Vista that’s pet-friendly. I decided to pop by the cafe at Star Vista. 

The food was good! I look for a certain flavour when it comes to Thai food. 'Good' is always relative, and to me, Warm Up Cafe's current chef/kitchen/recipes at The Star Vista hit a spot with my tastebuds. I don't know about the restaurant's kitchen at Mackenzie Road's, but they take dogs too, so I'll toddle there soon to have a bite and compare. There was a live band that night. They were Thai, and it was quite a clever marketing decision to have them banter in Thai. They were so young and cute, singing pop songs for well.... teenagers and young adults. But yeah, for a brief 30 minutes, I felt almost transported to a bistro in Hua Hin or Rayong.

As this was our first visit, we ordered the standard items that we usually order — stir-fried cabbage in fish sauce, omelette with prawns, grilled pork jowl, and beer. Heh. The man couldn't resist it and threw in a bowl of spicy boat noodles with beef tendon. You could tweak the spice level of the boat noodles, which really don't have to be spicy. You could just sprinkle more chilli powder. 

The server asked if my som tam would be 'Thai style', so I asked for Thai-style som tam with salted egg (som tam kai kem ส้มตำไข่เค็ม). Actually I don't know what's the difference between 'Thai style som tam' or 'Singapore style'. I suppose it's the level of spice in there. Of course I wanted it Thai style! It was piquant and tangy and pretty decent, but nowhere near real Thai style spicy. Heh. 

Friday, January 06, 2023

Ryo's Done With His Staycation!


Ryo is done with his staycation at ours and has gone home! Whewwww. I am tired. Not exhausted, because I totally know what to expect (this is like his fourth staycation with us this year), but yes, it's not the easiest thing to have another dog stay with us for a week even. The effort expended to care for another floof is doubled. The vacuuming has to be done daily, and the floor has to be mopped every other day. And yes, he's slightly messier than Choya when he comes to meal times and drinking out of the water bowl. I need to get a bigger mat for the water bowl. And at the back of my mind is always which vet/clinic to go to in case of an emergency, especially dicey during the holiday season. When I offer or accept a dog for a staycation, that extends to being responsible for his health and potential medical bills too (choyyy),  so I do have to like a cat or a dog's pawrents/humans a fair bit.

These two are great together at home. Thank goodness. They’re soooo quiet till I could even forget that I've got two floofs at home. In the small flat, they found their respective corners to chill out at and swop around. They give each other space, they play a little, then they mostly chill out on their own. These house-trained floofs don't chew anything that they're not supposed to. They're fully toilet-trained and they're happy with three pees a day — two long walks and a short mid-day or bedtime pee break. We're lucky that the rains have abated and the thunderstorms aren't so ferocious anymore during this period. I'm mostly allowed to sleep through the night unless our neighbors make odd noises and Choya gets a tad nervous. 

Ryo's fussy with food and eating times. This dog doesn't live to eat. He eats to live. So far on staycation with us, he is comfortable, but he will only eat when he's really hungry, at 9pm or 11pm. Dohhhhh. At least he knows how to come to me to ask for food. He's still not food-motivated. Training goes on regardless. I'm rather stoked that he will abide by my commands. (The man, not so, he pushes his luck with him.) Ryo still doesn't get restaurants and chilling out, but he remembers that this is done with us, so he tries. He's scared of the dark and odd noises. We kept our meals short, or break it up with a short stroll in between to calm him down. He doesn't eat out often in the nights with his pawrents, so we don't need to totally acclimatize him, but he should get some practice that doesn't stress him out. 

He's still anxious on long walks outdoors, but I pull him along anyway. Short leash and walk fast. Trot! So that he has no time to think and be more anxious! Keeping a 16-kg dog in check along a crowded Orchard Road was quite an arm workout. Thankfully he walks better than Choya in this way. He does very well with structured walks. 

Ryo did admirably in the crowded Apple store. We didn't go there for fun, of course. I went to collect my new 14" zhng-ed-up Macbook Pro and AirPods, and the man wanted to buy a charger. He was nervous, but kept it check. Of course us humans had to do their part to protect him. I didn't walk him up and down to aisle. That does nothing for his anxiety, and it's not quite the etiquette for us to annoy other humans who might not like dogs. I created a safe space for the floofs and made sure no one came within a meter of us. Wooohoo. Those who wanted to take photos asked me nicely, so I said yes. I asked the floofs to pose. When they did, about 50 phones were whipped to grab shots of them. Zzzzzzz. But no, nobody crowded the floofs, so they were calm and they were quite happy be given tasks to do. Hahahah. 

I don't think Choya minds Ryo hanging around, but she hasn't indicated that she missed him when he left. We didn't just send Ryo home on our own. We took Choya along, and made sure they played together at Ryo's home before leaving. That was for the two floofs to understand that they were going home/staying home separately. Ryo did look a bit sad when Choya left. Smol Girl didn't seem to care. LOL She happily ran into the lift with us without even looking back at bae. 😂